You Need Help: How Do I Spice Up My Relationship?
So you’re not looking for anything new… but something has got to change for you to feel more fulfilled in this relationship.
Tell Me What You Want What You Really Really Want: Make a Resolution for Your Sex Life in 2019
If one of your goals is to experience more pleasure, take a new approach to your sex life, or something similar, here are some tips and thoughts about how to craft a new year’s resolution for your sex life that will hopefully help you work toward it.
Cuffing Season: Five Tips for Anxious Dominants
Worried you can’t be a good Dominant because you’re too anxious or awkward? Don’t be.
How to Host the Queer Play Party of Your (Sex) Dreams
Hosting your very own play party can feel like a lot, but with this guide you and your guests all set for a fun, chill and sexy time.
Ready For Your Close-Up: The Beginner’s Guide to Taking a Sexy Solo Video
You’re hot, you know it, and you want someone else to know it too. Be it a partner, a crush, the internet at large, yourself — you name it, you can record yourself and make that happen. But where do you start? What do you want to showcase? What does a sexy video even MEAN, you know?
How to Have Lesbian Sex While You’re Home for the Holidays
What’s a queer to do when you’re looking for a holiday hookup? Or have a partner you’d like to make hot sensual holiday love with? Get creative!
This Is Literally How We Do It: Lesbian Sex Positions 101
Sex isn’t one thing. It’s a million things. There’s a million ways to have it and there’s a million ways to enjoy it. So get creative, mix things up, and focus on what feels good. Also, scissoring is real. Get over it, haters.
How to Cruise for the Casual Lesbian Sex You Deserve
I bring to you cruising tips and casual sex advice built off the years of skanky queer life experience that have solidified me as one of the leading minds in the highly un-scientific field of “Lezzy Slut-ology.”
33 Queer Women and Non-Binary People On Their Early Masturbation Experiences
“oops and it was because i was attracted to barbie’s sister skipper”
Sex & Accessibility 101: How to Have Super Hot Sex with or as a Disabled Person
Disabled people have sex. Trust me, I know.
Impact Play 101: How to Successfully Spank and Slap With Your Very Own Hands
Your hands are your first and best sex toy, and one thing you can do with them is spank people! Hot. Let’s talk about how you can do that in a safe and sexy way!
How to Rock Your First BDSM Play Party
How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
Squirting 101: Soak Up the Pleasure, Soak Up the Fun
The thing is, there’s no RIGHT way to squirt or to get someone to squirt. There’s no one trick that gets every person, without fail, to magically ejaculate like a pro. That said, here are some places you can get started in trying to hosting your very own water show.
Queer Flagging 101: How to Use the Hanky Code to Signal the Sex You Want to Have
When the sex we want is criminalized or considered more “perverted” than the sex cisgender heterosexuals are engaging in, a handkerchief in the back pocket is a quiet way to show off our sexual deviancy in a world that doesn’t want to see it.
A+ Sex Diary: FaceTime Fucking and Feeling the Distance
In this queer sex diary: long-distance FaceTime fucking, a dish rack full of sex toys, feeling sad, feeling S.A.D., and feeling goofy and good.
Tops, Bottoms, Switches: One Last Look at All The Survey Data
In our last post dedicated to our tops / bottoms / switches survey, we’re looking at a broad overview of all the data.
What Does It Mean To Be a Switch in Lesbian Sex?
Today we’re using our sex survey data to talk about switches and also about those of you who identified as NONE OF THE ABOVE. Which is fine!
For My Own Pleasure: Hiring a Sex Worker as a Queer Woman
“She kisses me. I hold on to her arms lightly, not wanting to hurt her, not wanting to weird her out, make her uncomfortable. She’s here for me: I’d hired her for exactly that, and she agreed to it, and she’s here.”
55 Very Deep Thoughts About Your Sex Life You Shared With Us On Our Recent Sex Survey
“I’ve been dying to tell someone about how my partner and I finally found a name for our new dildo and it’s Antoni”
What Does It Mean to Be a “Top” or a “Dominant” in Lesbian Sex?
It’s time for part two of our series on what queer women and trans people are talking about when they talk about tops, bottoms and switches. Today we are taking your love ON TOP.