Sex Ed 2.0: Books on Queer Sex That Answer Questions You Never Got To Ask

Our ongoing adult sex ed requires a little research. These books on queer sex address the questions you didn’t get to ask in health class.

A drawing of two women laying side-by-side, their bare shoulders exposed

AF+ Sex

S L I C K: I Bet It Does

Made me want to / and I did tap / that ass / many times / made it mine.

Sex

I Have IBS and I Still Want You to Eat My Ass

“Do you think he’ll notice if I just never come out of the bathroom?”

two women, one green and one blue, lie together nude in grass with stalks of lavender. the green woman is behind the blue one, spooning her, with an arm on her shoulder.

AF+ Sex

S L I C K: Duckling

First I became a cloud-woman. Min had always liked watching them as a child, one of her only good memories from that period. I lifted up my skirts, let her lap up my water. Her mouth was covered in dew when I kissed her.

An abstract rendering of a pale lavender triangle with a neon green shape embedded in it rotating through a background of rippled blue and purple

Sex

Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: Power Dynamics Are in the Eye of the Beholder

What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these things about us (or projecting them onto us)? If so, is that annoying or helpful? Do they get at authentic ways that our sexual dynamics are natural expressions of other parts of our personhood?

a double-image graphic that's cut in half with a red filter over it, so everything is bathed in a red light. on the left side, in negative, the top half of a brown, scorpio femme (the author!) poses in a leopard print slip. she's wearing hoop earrings, has a slightly parted mouth, round glasses frames and has loosely curled hair down to their shoulders. the other side of the image is in positive and shows a mirror image with more detail on the author's face.

First Person Sex

14 Knuckles: Always A Fistee, Never A Fister

My acceptance of my own pain allows me to have the kind of sex that is rooted in the specificity of my body. I don’t love the idea that I’ll never fist, but I do love the idea that every act of sex I engage with is collaborative. Queerness reminds me that there is no standard way to fuck or live.

a pair of fat green hands are tied at the wrists with hot pink rope, so the heels of the thumbs are almost touching. across from the green hands, a pair of sinewy brown hands hold the ends of the rope tightly, with the slack wrapped around their fingers

AF+ Sex

S L I C K: The Cunt

Powdered hemp cutting into soft, bruised flesh. Jax tries to hook a finger between rope and skin and finds there isn’t room. It excites them.

A hand drawing a comic panel on a notebook page is figured in black & white in the center of a field of floating shapes and lines in a range of the bi flag colors.

Sex

Remaking Myself and My Desires on the Comics Page

An exploration of how this cartoonist came into her bisexuality by seeing her desires made manifest in others’ art and decided to make herself seen through her own art.

A Black woman with natural hair and a warm, serious expression wearing a patterned knit sweater looks directly at the camera, hands clasped in front of her chin and forefingers steepled together in front of her mouth.

Sex

Here’s Your Roadmap to Finding Your Authentic Sexual Self

Guides often suggest a masturbation practice, getting to know your own unique fantasies, or even challenging yourself to watch porn. But there’s no one perfect method; here’s a bit of a different approach!

Sex

You Need Help: What If I’m Bad At Sex?

No one is bad at sex.

Illustration of a erotic video site called Fet Tube. A video of a woman lying nude with a microphone pointed down between her legs is in the process of playing. There’s a look of ecstasy on her face and her fingers languidly part her mouth open. A pop-up window is overlaid across her that says “Send me a private message for only $9.99!“. The title of the video below reads “18+ NSFW ASMR - Listen to my BODY & RELAX :) [Adults only vibes]“. The user bio reads “Welcome to my body party. Enjoy the relaxing sounds of my microphones brushing against my leg hairs.” in the sidebar are thumbnails for other porn videos.

AF+ Sex

S L I C K: Wanna Cyber

Mostly I had chalked my ambivalence up to stifling antidepressants and emotional avoidance. Was I gutted of desire or was this a case of under exposure? Or was I supposed to own my simpleton truth and scream from a cliff, “I just want to dim the lights and be pegged, goddamnit!”

Sex

You Need Help: Are There Exercises For Better Finger Sex?

Stretching can certainly prevent your muscles from getting sore, but focusing on your posture and form will give you the best finger sex results.

collage image of orange marigold flowers carpeting the space between two thighs, smaller flowers scattered up on the thighs. a dewy green mango leaf in the background.

First Person Sex

Anatomy Of A Mango: Seed

Because of the positive affirmation I received during sex, I began to believe it was all I was good for. When people wanted me, I assumed it was my job to provide joy for other people. I gave myself to a lot of people in that way. I had to remember that I had a right to pleasure as well.

Two women in bed, not speaking with or looking at each other.

Relationships Sex

You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives

You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.

two Black women are having sex in a bathroom and one is naked, perched on the edge of a pink sink while the other is sitting on the floor licking the other's pussy

AF+ Sex

S L I C K: Jesus Is; A Love Song Part 2

Finally, Danielle and Joanna are reunited are years of radio silence. Will Joanna’s voice still move Danielle as strongly as she remembers?

mirror image split screen of a femme of color sitting on their knees in a sexy floral robe, hair down, leaning to the right. there's a red treatment over the photo for a little extra erotic style.

First Person Sex

14 Knuckles: Femme Top Revolution

There’s a difference between domination as a way to take control or claim power over another person — the way certain lovers have done with me — versus domination as a way to provide comfort and care, and to grow one’s power without harming anyone else.

An abstract image of a neon yellow triangle against a field of blue swirls and ripples.

Sex

Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: So You’re a Top/Bottom/Switch

How have you defined (or not) your role over time? Has it changed, did you at first think you “were” one thing and now you ID differently? how did that feel and what did it bring up? How do you ID now, and where do you see it as part of that ~ journey ~?

A frustrated-looking white woman wearing glasses and scowls down at her phone as she types.

Sex

Oh Duck: The Autocorrect Adds You Need for Better Queer Sexting

A spectre is haunting queer sexting — the spectre of “duck.” Here’s how to fix your autocorrect and what to add to your dictionary for better queer sexting.

A bald-headed woman holds a long-haired woman's face in her sharp, red-nailed hands, and spits in her mouth.

AF+ Sex

S L I C K: Jesus Is; A Love Song Part 1

Severed and shamed by their church as teenagers, Danielle and Joanna are reunited years later by the very same song that propelled them into their sexual awakening years ago.

close-up of dewy bright orange mango flesh fills the whole window

First Person Sex

Anatomy of a Mango: Flesh

It seems contradictory to say I learned how to view my body as my own by sharing it with strangers and friends, but it is a truth that I revel in. What I love and learn about these encounters are the parameters of my body, its strengths, and boundaries, what pleases it.

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