I Always (Never) Feel Like — Somebody’s Watching Me
Are you gonna let them watch you strap up or are you a “BRB” kinda babe?
Suck My Silicone Or Save Your Mouth For Me?
Should you play suck and blow or what’s the point?
One Strap To Rule Them All Or Nah — Not So Much?
Do you only need one strap or is variety truly the spice of life?
An Act of Service: Strapping My Dom As a Leatherdyke Bottom
I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.
To Strap Or Not To Strap — That Is The Question
It’s the age-old queer question — Are you strapping or nah?
Celebrate International Fisting Day With a Handful of Queer Fisting Porn
In celebration of International Fisting Day, watch these queer babes make their hands disappear.
Don’t Let Your Nail Length Stop You From Having Great Sex
1998 called — they said sorry for pushing stereotypes about nails and queer sex. Shelli and Ro are here to set the record straight.
You Need Help: My Ex Got Mad That I Didn’t Want To Have Sex, Now I Can’t Trust Anyone
I have to start by getting this out: “Fuck your ex. FUCK THEM.” You are not to blame.
Yes, Some Of Us Use Dental Dams (And They’re Hot)
I attended the Chicago Pride Parade, where safer sex advocates tossed dental dams in shiny squares of plastic from a float. Thrilled, I swept them up, put them in my bag and promptly put them to use.
Here’s Your Full Video Workshop Breaking Down Everything You Need to Know for Strap-On Sex
The latest in Queer Sex 101, our series of real live queer people teaching you everything you need to know about real queer sex continues, with a one-hour workshop from sex educator, Autostraddle writer, SLICK editor and More, Please! editor Ro White on strap-on sex.
How and Why I Wrote Bang!: A Masturbation Sex-Ed Book for Everyone
I made Bang! Masturbation for People of All Genders and Abilities because it profoundly made sense to me, because there was a gaping hole in that plastic wall where there should have been some acknowledgement of pleasure, consent, or the emotions of sex. Bang! was designed to fill this gap with emotionally-aware, positive sex-ed. While we had been taught about the vas deferens and fallopian tubes, we had never been taught how to even talk about sex with a partner. I made Bang! because I thought it needed to exist.
Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Fetish
I don’t really have a lot left from childhood, and after a while, I became very into certain tangible objects. The idea that you could fetishize a material object instantly made sense to me.
Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries
Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a thing, that it is healthy to have a container for things.
Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Self-Expression
“When I was diagnosed, and realizing how it affected me outside of the way that I eat, it’s these processes throughout my day or the way that my personality functions. It isn’t that disruptive, but having the framework helped. Finding kink, having the words for it, helped contextualize the sex that I like to have, the friendships that I like to have, the dynamics that I like to have and the relationships in general.”
How to Have Gay Sex for the First Time: A Workshop with Luna Matatas
From owning your erotic imagination to navigating your anatomy and someone else’s, here’s your intro to having gay sex for the first time.
You Deserve to Practice Elaborate Masturbation in Your Life; Here’s How
I once described a particularly elaborate session I’d had to a friend, and she seemed shocked and impressed. “You like, really love yourself, huh?” I do. I really do. And you can too!
How to Masturbate Like a Champ
May is Masturbation Month! Here’s your guide to doing you as only you can.
You Need Help: I Thought We Were Both Switches, but My Girlfriend Won’t Touch Me
It sounds like your idea of your sexual dynamic with your girlfriend isn’t lining up with the reality of it.
You Need Help: My Partner Says I’m Awkward in Bed
“Sex requires a negotiation of boundaries that’s more explicit than it is in other contexts, so it can be easier to see it when those boundaries are broken. But if people communicate poorly during sex, they probably communicate poorly in other contexts, too.”
Mondo Fetiche Doesn’t See Why Queer Porn Can’t Also Be Arthouse Cinema
Billed as artcore fetish film and “a creative love affair between modern kink and vintage cult cinema,” Mondo Fetiche’s popping color palettes and self-aware cultural pastiches add a fascinating new layer to the vintage leather aesthetic many of us associate with queer kink. There’s plenty of leather, don’t worry about that – and there’s also babygirl femme tea parties, lesbian soccer scenes on a DIY field, and queer porn tributes to the femdom art of Namio Harukawa.