Team Pick: “All About Anal” Video Series
The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health has your back.
Mira Bellwether and “Fucking Trans Women” Zine: The Autostraddle Interview
“When one of my lovers said that she wished she had an instruction manual for my body, I took that and responded to it pretty literally.”
Unchained NYC: Flogging, Spanking, and Dommes, Oh My!
“I just need to hit you with this,” said the woman at the door. She held up a rubber stamp and I held out my hand. “Well, not hit you hit you. But it is that kind of party.”
You Need Help: Telling Someone How To Sex You Up
Fortunately, people DO come with a user manual, you just have to verbally speak it into existence.
Erotica: Handcrafted Bamboo
There was a small pile of sex toys already on the bed, but the drawer was far from empty. “This is a flogger that I made from reclaimed bike tubes,” she said, pulling out a wicked little thing and tossing it onto the bed beside me.
On Sex Positivity: My Weirdo Feelings About Lesbians Reacting to “Lesbian” Porn
There is not a right way to have lesbian sex. There is not a queer hierarchy. There is simply safety and the things you like to do in bed.
Super Girly Top Secret Erika Moen: The Autostraddle Interview
In which Erika Moen, the mastermind behind DAR! and Oh Joy, Sex Toy, tells us to go have a wank.
The Kink Panel Has Some Kinky Resources For You
The Kink Panel wanted to give you guys all the resources so you can follow along at home.
Erotica: The Story of Two Girls In Like With Each Other
How dare I fall for the signature move when I’ve heard about it countless times over Chinese food?
Masturbation Memory Lane: Roundtable and Open Thread
Autostraddle staff talks anonymously about when they started masturbating, among other things. Join us, won’t you?
You Need Help: Let’s Talk About (Having More) Sex
“Am I allowed to tell my girlfriend that I would like to have sex more often? If so, how?”
You Need Help: The Quest For Awesome Queer Feminist Porn
“I’d like to see if porn does anything for me, would you have any (ethical, lesbian) recommendations for the first try of a young adult with an eye for the femmier?”
You Need Help: Real Talk About Your First Strap-On
“Help! I just got a strap-on and it turns out I’m not so skilled at using it (yet). How do I learn?”
You Need Help: No One’s An Expert on Orgasms Right Away
“I’ve been hanging out/ hooking up with this girl for about a month. I have her pretty figured out physically and can get her off fairly quick, but the same can’t be said about her. I don’t have a problem with it, but it’s starting to make her upset. Help.”
What We Talk About When We Talk About Flogging
Gather ’round, queers, and let me tell you the tale of The Christmas Flogger. It is a tale of how my girlfriend and I negotiated, bought and learned to use our very first flogger.
ConsentEd: Your Sexy, Savvy, Consensual Resource
“When there are so many of these unhealthy ideas floating out there, it can be really challenging for many of us to fully understand and embody healthy sex, which from our perspective, relies on consent, equality, respects, trust and safety.”
20 Things You Can Take Away from “The S and M Feminist” Whether You’re Into S and M or Not
“Sex education should tell people how to explore what they want, not just that they should explore.”
NY Mag Sex Diary Stars Lesbian Couple Getting Kinky in Provincetown
“She is often horny after working out. I’m often horny after drinking while she is working out, so we are a perfect match.”
CDC Warns That Oral Sex Is Still Risky: How Queers Who Like Vaginas Can Keep Them Safe
Safer oral sex is healthier, sexier, and is likely to improve the quality of your life in general.
In Which This Queer Sex Blogger Feels Up New York Magazine’s “Sex Issue”
There is a “New York Magazine” issue dedicated entirely to boning. Did you know? And guess what? It’s not entirely about heterosexuals in missionary position–there are so many more perspectives than that.