Bottoms Up: BDSM and Abuse
It was summer and I was lonely and she was kinky and the sex was good and I live in a small town. And she was perfect, but she wasn’t.
View From The Top: Canes Are Sticks!
I had always put boundaries on my sadism — until I started seeing impact toys everywhere.
Bottoms Up: Bottoming and Butt Sex
I want to submit — to the right person. And the right person — with whom I have a deep level of trust, with whom I can relax — will fuck me in the ass.
10 Tips For Texting About Sex (and Having the Kind You Want)
“You will have the best sex possible when you abandon yourself to pleasure.” The fastest way to find that feeling of abandon? Telling someone what to do to get you there.
View From The Top: It’s Like 10,000 Femme Tops When All You Need Is A Bottom
Before you can find someone who wants what you want, you have to say no to everyone who doesn’t.
Bottoms Up: I Am My Best Sex
Being single, solo submission, masturbation, and how you can be your own best and favorite top.
View From The Top: Don’t Come Until I Say You Can
Tease and denial is a classic flirtation. Orgasm control is just one step further.
Bottoms Up: Kinky Safer Sex As A Single Sub
I got my first STI as a newly single sub with no idea how to practice kinky safer sex. Turns out safer sex is everyone’s responsibility.
View From The Top: Dividing Acts and Power
“What if the person who is strapped-on is tied to a bed, blindfolded and ridden, not allowed to come? Who is really in charge then?”
Bottoms Up: She Wants Me To Send Nudes But I Think She’s a Fuckboi
Nude selfies are how I first learned to see myself as a sexual being, and now they also let me determine how others see me — especially within kinky power dynamic relationships.
You Need Help: Are You Asexual or Was Having Sex With Dudes Just the Worst?
“I was bred as a Southern Baptist, which gave me plenty of reasons not to let a guy touch my boobs. For example, it would break Jesus’ heart. And also I would go to hell.”
View From The Top: How I Went From Top To Dominant
I wanted her to crawl over to the toy box and fetch the cane, then bring it back to me in her mouth. I wanted to tell her what to do. And I wanted it to be for my direct pleasure.
You Need Help: Do I Disclose That I Haven’t Had Sex In a While?
“How do I own up to this as if it’s the most normal thing for me to have done?” Well guess what — not having sex IS a normal thing! I have the great pleasure today of telling you that you’re normal.
Bottoms Up: Sex and the Single Sub
I had to be comfortable enough to say, “I like this, but not that” to someone I’d just met, because if I couldn’t, I might get my clit bit again.
Lesbian and Bisexual Teens Sure Did Have A Lot Of Sex, Study Shows
A new study suggests sexually active lesbian teens have more partners and lost their virginities earlier than heterosexuals and that one in five lesbian’s most recent sex partner was a man.
View From The Top: How Topping Taught Me Physics And Feminism
Trusting physics, trusting agency, trusting desire, and trusting the people I played with changed everything.
Bottoms Up: Choosing Pleasure Over Perfection
“I’ve gotten so good at telling people what I like and what I want that I’ve been accused of topping from the bottom, but telling people what I don’t like is completely different territory.”
8 Exceptional Excerpts From “The Joy of Lesbian Sex”
“We have heard of a number of attempts to go down on a lover underwater, but apparently few women possess the breath-holding capacity to take their lover all the way to orgasm.”
View From The Top: The First Time I Knew I Was a Top
The first time I knew I was a top was when a girl I was dating said, “Please, hit me harder,” and then, later, whispered, “I can take more than you can give me.”
Bottoms Up: That Time I Told My Boifriend I Liked Being Told What to Do
How do you tell someone, “Hey, I’d love it if you’d slap me around and tell me what to do”?
Turns out, you tell them just like that.