View From The Top: Giving Orders
Giving orders is more than the words coming out of my mouth. It’s the tone of voice I use, the eye contact, the confidence, the ease with which I speak.
Bottoms Up: Little Boi
Being in little space doesn’t feel like being a child again. It feels more freeing than my childhood ever was, and like something completely different.
View From The Top: Desire That Looks Like Mine
The possibility of finding our kink community gave me the courage to take another deep breath and open the door.
Bottoms Up: Nope That Word Is Not For Me
“I cannot wait to have a partner with whom I can explore consensual non-consent in a 24/7 lifestyle. But to be called a slave? In America?”
View From The Top: Coming and Crying; Master and Slave
“Master and slave — in consensual, intentional contexts — are the precise words for the cravings I have in my heart and gut to own, control, protect and nurture my partner.”
View From The Top: Power In Theory, Power In Practice
Sarah and I talked a lot about power in our relationship — who had it, who felt it, how it flowed between us. It wasn’t always smooth.
Bottoms Up: Why I’m A Bratty Bossy Bitch
Submitting is a weird dichotomy of knowing exactly what you want but putting someone else in control of giving it to you.
View From The Top: Polka Dots, Packing, and Protocol
We started to turn the top/bottom dynamics in our sex life into 24/7 dominance/submission. It was highly negotiated, mutually consensual, and extremely hot.
So You Want to Fuck an Able-Bodied Person
For the disabled among us, meet-cutes and the events that follow aren’t so simple to orchestrate. Need a refresher on the rules of engagement? There’s no need to go it alone!
Bottoms Up: My Time In The Dungeon
“I was on my ninth cigarette when the dom about to give me the most affirming experience I’d had as a sub came to stand next to me.”
View From The Top: Daddy
I wanted to hear her say it again. I wanted her to say it while we fucked, while I was inside her, while she kissed me, while she came. It felt right, it felt extraordinary, it felt entirely new.
You Need Help: Issues With Strap-On Size
What do you do when your girlfriend has a small vaginal opening and wants to have penetrative sex?
View From The Top: Theory Is Foreplay, Right?
I wanted her. I dreamed about her, daydreamed about her, wrote love notes to her all day long, wrote erotica about our sex life. We weren’t together all that long, but she taught me so much about dominance.
Bottoms Up: BDSM and Abuse
It was summer and I was lonely and she was kinky and the sex was good and I live in a small town. And she was perfect, but she wasn’t.
View From The Top: Canes Are Sticks!
I had always put boundaries on my sadism — until I started seeing impact toys everywhere.
Bottoms Up: Bottoming and Butt Sex
I want to submit — to the right person. And the right person — with whom I have a deep level of trust, with whom I can relax — will fuck me in the ass.
10 Tips For Texting About Sex (and Having the Kind You Want)
“You will have the best sex possible when you abandon yourself to pleasure.” The fastest way to find that feeling of abandon? Telling someone what to do to get you there.
View From The Top: It’s Like 10,000 Femme Tops When All You Need Is A Bottom
Before you can find someone who wants what you want, you have to say no to everyone who doesn’t.
Bottoms Up: I Am My Best Sex
Being single, solo submission, masturbation, and how you can be your own best and favorite top.
View From The Top: Don’t Come Until I Say You Can
Tease and denial is a classic flirtation. Orgasm control is just one step further.