Bottoms Up: Why I’m A Bratty Bossy Bitch
Submitting is a weird dichotomy of knowing exactly what you want but putting someone else in control of giving it to you.
View From The Top: Polka Dots, Packing, and Protocol
We started to turn the top/bottom dynamics in our sex life into 24/7 dominance/submission. It was highly negotiated, mutually consensual, and extremely hot.
So You Want to Fuck an Able-Bodied Person
For the disabled among us, meet-cutes and the events that follow aren’t so simple to orchestrate. Need a refresher on the rules of engagement? There’s no need to go it alone!
Bottoms Up: My Time In The Dungeon
“I was on my ninth cigarette when the dom about to give me the most affirming experience I’d had as a sub came to stand next to me.”
View From The Top: Daddy
I wanted to hear her say it again. I wanted her to say it while we fucked, while I was inside her, while she kissed me, while she came. It felt right, it felt extraordinary, it felt entirely new.
You Need Help: Issues With Strap-On Size
What do you do when your girlfriend has a small vaginal opening and wants to have penetrative sex?
View From The Top: Theory Is Foreplay, Right?
I wanted her. I dreamed about her, daydreamed about her, wrote love notes to her all day long, wrote erotica about our sex life. We weren’t together all that long, but she taught me so much about dominance.
Bottoms Up: BDSM and Abuse
It was summer and I was lonely and she was kinky and the sex was good and I live in a small town. And she was perfect, but she wasn’t.
View From The Top: Canes Are Sticks!
I had always put boundaries on my sadism — until I started seeing impact toys everywhere.
Bottoms Up: Bottoming and Butt Sex
I want to submit — to the right person. And the right person — with whom I have a deep level of trust, with whom I can relax — will fuck me in the ass.
10 Tips For Texting About Sex (and Having the Kind You Want)
“You will have the best sex possible when you abandon yourself to pleasure.” The fastest way to find that feeling of abandon? Telling someone what to do to get you there.
View From The Top: It’s Like 10,000 Femme Tops When All You Need Is A Bottom
Before you can find someone who wants what you want, you have to say no to everyone who doesn’t.
Bottoms Up: I Am My Best Sex
Being single, solo submission, masturbation, and how you can be your own best and favorite top.
View From The Top: Don’t Come Until I Say You Can
Tease and denial is a classic flirtation. Orgasm control is just one step further.
Bottoms Up: Kinky Safer Sex As A Single Sub
I got my first STI as a newly single sub with no idea how to practice kinky safer sex. Turns out safer sex is everyone’s responsibility.
View From The Top: Dividing Acts and Power
“What if the person who is strapped-on is tied to a bed, blindfolded and ridden, not allowed to come? Who is really in charge then?”
Bottoms Up: She Wants Me To Send Nudes But I Think She’s a Fuckboi
Nude selfies are how I first learned to see myself as a sexual being, and now they also let me determine how others see me — especially within kinky power dynamic relationships.
You Need Help: Are You Asexual or Was Having Sex With Dudes Just the Worst?
“I was bred as a Southern Baptist, which gave me plenty of reasons not to let a guy touch my boobs. For example, it would break Jesus’ heart. And also I would go to hell.”
View From The Top: How I Went From Top To Dominant
I wanted her to crawl over to the toy box and fetch the cane, then bring it back to me in her mouth. I wanted to tell her what to do. And I wanted it to be for my direct pleasure.
You Need Help: Do I Disclose That I Haven’t Had Sex In a While?
“How do I own up to this as if it’s the most normal thing for me to have done?” Well guess what — not having sex IS a normal thing! I have the great pleasure today of telling you that you’re normal.