So You Want to Fuck an Able-Bodied Person

Able-bodied people: some are amazing, some are the worst, and either way, some are really hot. Don’t be ashamed if one catches your eye! They’re kind of everywhere; it happens. But for the disabled among us, meet-cutes and the events that follow aren’t so simple to orchestrate. Need a refresher on the rules of engagement? There’s no need to go it alone.

This chart isn’t the be-all and end-all—I stuck to what I know, which meant leaving out poly relationships, invisible disabilities, and many other noteworthy variables. I can only hope to inspire a wave of graphical humor illustrating what I could not.

In the meantime, may this one light the way as you begin your hero’s journey.



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Carrie's body is weird and she's making that work for her. She lives in DC by way of Los Angeles and has a conflicted relationship with social media, but you can follow her on Twitter and Instagram anyway.

Carrie has written 83 articles for us.


  1. Have I never mentioned how much I fucking love a chart!
    Also, this one is so much more applicable to my life than the ‘which boyband member is your perfect date’ or ‘which dress will you be wearing to YOUR wedding’charts I was exposed to as a teenager.

  2. Carrie, thank you so danged much for every word you write. I’m a queer gal with invisible (unless you’re like, really paying attention) disability, and I always find your work so touching and funny and true. The next time I want to do sex things, I might just show this chart to my potential partner. Or, you know, laminate a copy to keep next to my bed for reference. So real, so great!

  3. Hi, Carrie. My friend with CP and I printed this article, translated into Japanese, and made a bilingual chart for our community to actually talk about stuff. We really appreciate your work lately and I would love to translate other articles as well.

    • Thank you so much, that means the world to hear. So glad it was helpful to you both. Would love to help you translate more articles if you’re interested! Email me at carriewade at autostraddle dot com and we can discuss!

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