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Bottoms Up: Sex and the Single Sub

I had to be comfortable enough to say, “I like this, but not that” to someone I’d just met, because if I couldn’t, I might get my clit bit again.

Ari March 8, 2016 13 Comments
Sex

Lesbian and Bisexual Teens Sure Did Have A Lot Of Sex, Study Shows

A new study suggests sexually active lesbian teens have more partners and lost their virginities earlier than heterosexuals and that one in five lesbian’s most recent sex partner was a man.

Riese March 2, 2016 23 Comments
Sex

View From The Top: How Topping Taught Me Physics And Feminism

Trusting physics, trusting agency, trusting desire, and trusting the people I played with changed everything.

Sinclair Sexsmith March 1, 2016 18 Comments
Sex

Bottoms Up: Choosing Pleasure Over Perfection

“I’ve gotten so good at telling people what I like and what I want that I’ve been accused of topping from the bottom, but telling people what I don’t like is completely different territory.”

Ari February 23, 2016 9 Comments
LGBT Book Reviews Sex

8 Exceptional Excerpts From “The Joy of Lesbian Sex”

“We have heard of a number of attempts to go down on a lover underwater, but apparently few women possess the breath-holding capacity to take their lover all the way to orgasm.”

Laura Mandanas February 22, 2016 54 Comments
Sex

View From The Top: The First Time I Knew I Was a Top

The first time I knew I was a top was when a girl I was dating said, “Please, hit me harder,” and then, later, whispered, “I can take more than you can give me.”

Sinclair Sexsmith February 16, 2016 17 Comments
Sex

Bottoms Up: That Time I Told My Boifriend I Liked Being Told What to Do

How do you tell someone, “Hey, I’d love it if you’d slap me around and tell me what to do”?
Turns out, you tell them just like that.

Ari February 9, 2016 47 Comments
Sex

Is Period Sex The Ultimate Lesbian Sexual Indicator?

People who want to have period sex have more and varied sex more often and report higher sexual satisfaction than anyone else, a survey finds.

Ryan Yates February 8, 2016 40 Comments
Sex

“I Sit on Her Face All Day”: A Conversation on Sex and Wheelchairs

Exploring the erotic significance of wheelchairs is an opportunity to refuse the limited choices available for sexual narration.

Tovah February 4, 2016 19 Comments
Sex

View From The Top: I Started As A Bottom

Started as a bottom, now I’m here.

Sinclair Sexsmith February 2, 2016 78 Comments
Sex

Love Non-Orgasmically: She’s Not Coming But We’re Still Here

“I came. You didn’t. I’d kind of expected it to happen because of our connection – hoped egotistically anyway. I was disappointed but figured I’d give it time.”

Guest January 19, 2016 56 Comments
Sex

10 Ideas From “The Ultimate Guide To Kink” That Even Vanilla People Will Be Into

If you want an overview of everything kinky and don’t know where to start, this is where.

Ryan Yates November 30, 2015 4 Comments
Sex

14 Lesbian Sexual Fantasies Submitted By Anonymous Women To 1973’s “My Secret Garden”

“I had slight lesbian tendencies before going into the convent…”

Ryan Yates November 23, 2015 23 Comments
Sex

9 Ways To Think About What Sex Is And Isn’t From ‘The Sex Myth’

The Sex Myth will make you rethink the way you think about the role of sex in your life, whatever it looks like.

Ryan Yates November 3, 2015 18 Comments
Sex

9 Sex-Life-Changing Tips From “Girl Sex 101”

If you only plan to read one book about sex, ever, make it Girl Sex 101.

Ryan Yates October 22, 2015 20 Comments
Sex

Happy International Fisting Day! Celebrate With Five Queer Fisting Scenes

Celebrate International Fisting Day with these scenes from the Crash Pad Series.

Ryan Yates October 21, 2015 7 Comments
Sex

You Need Help: Getting It On After Hip Replacement Surgery

The good news is: your wife’s new hip will probably make your sex life even better! Here’s some tips for easing back into it.

KaeLyn October 12, 2015 23 Comments
Sex

You Need Help: You’re Vanilla And Your Partner Is Kinky

How to explore kinky sex with a kinky partner when you have no experience whatsoever.

Sinclair Sexsmith September 15, 2015 17 Comments
Sex

10 Lesbian Sex Scenes I Wrote Before I Had Lesbian Sex

“Elizabeth kissed her back, passionately and crazily! It felt like being beat by ocean waves — but in a good way.”

Heather Hogan September 8, 2015 101 Comments
Book Lists Sex

10 Lesbianish Sex Books To Make You Better In Bed

Want to know how to have lesbian sex? These books have your back.

Ryan Yates June 29, 2015 25 Comments
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