View From The Top: Five Favorite Protocols
Within D/s relationships specifically, protocols are explicit, negotiated with the needs and best interests of everyone in mind, subject to change based on reflection and consent.
Bottoms Up: Holistic Masochism
“Holistic masochism recognizes that I’m not just a sex machine, but a whole person who has to exist before and after play.”
View From The Top: It’s Protocol
We thrive on these everyday tiny moments where we both get to be reminded of our agreed-upon power differential.
View From The Top: Aftercare For Tops
“Perhaps trust is my biggest kink. That would explain a lot.”
Bottoms Up: Be Your Own Submissive
“When I’m alone, and the world feels like it’s ending, for whom do I do service?”
View From The Top: Tops Have Limits, Too
“I knew she wanted it, I trusted her to know she could take what she asked for, and I wanted to give her what she wanted. But I couldn’t do it.”
Bottoms Up: A Way To Move Through The World
I started to see submission as less about what happens in play and more about a way to approach the world.
View From The Top: Tender-Hearted Dom
When you want your partner to be strong, dominant, demanding and strict, “What do you need right now? Can I make you a sandwich? Let’s watch your favorite movie!” is not a sexy reaction.
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Bottoms Up: What Limits?
Sex doesn’t exist in a vacuum, but what if during the act, it did? What if all I focused on during sex was consent and pleasure?
What I Want to Hear in Bed
That’s what’s tricky about disabled sexuality: most people, disabled or not or anyplace in between, have no idea how to discuss it. So fear of “saying the wrong thing” takes over instead and the problem feeds itself. We never talk about it because we don’t know how to start.
View From The Top: We Don’t Need A Safeword
“I’m not saying the only time you should play with safewords is in consensual non-consent. But to me, it’s the only time they’re really necessary.”
Naughty Lesbian Scenes
Oh, it’s definitely hot in here. Because of ~*lesbians.*~
Bottoms Up: Greedy
“Submitting is something I do, not something done to me.”
View From the Top: Dominant Fantasy vs. Dominant Reality
I have to be willing to reveal the messy, intimate parts of my life to have this authority exchange really work 24/7. Otherwise, it just isn’t sustainable.
Bottoms Up: Sad, Solo, Submissive
Be the daddy you want to see in the world.
View From The Top: Wine and Pie and Collars
“I want my friends to know who I belong to now,” rife said. “I want everyone to know I am taken.”
Bottoms Up: Subspace Is Better Than Meditation
The more I experience subspace, the more I think that mindful living is possible for me.
View From The Top: Playing Through Depression
It’s almost impossible to master while grieving. When that grief turns into a depression, is it even M/s anymore?
Bottoms Up: Did My Feminist Ancestors Burn Their Bras For This?
I’ve worked hard to hold onto my independence, and here I was giving it up — to someone more dominant and more masculine. My feminist ancestors didn’t burn their bras for this. Except what if they did?