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Culture Parenting & Family

Can Immigrant Mothers Heal With Their Queer Kids? These Desi Aunties Are Trying

Desi parents get a bad rap in America. Across TV and social media, immigrant aunties are typecast as judgmental or conservative, or else passive victims of circumstance, unable to navigate American society as fluently as their children.

Malavika Kannan June 10, 2025 4 Comments
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First Person Health

My Childhood Was Abusive. The Effects of CPTSD Kept Me From Realizing It

It took me over two decades to readily consider myself a victim of abuse.

Summer Tao June 10, 2025 4 Comments
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AF+ Life

What If I’m Totally Fine with the Space Between Us?

Your mom wants to braid friendship bracelets and you want to disappear into adulthood. Also, we help a reader embrace queer romance novels!

the team May 30, 2025 5 Comments
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Health

‘I Want To Eat More Protein Without Triggering My ED’

Practical tips for someone who wants to fuel their workouts with more protein but doesn’t want to track.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya May 27, 2025 17 Comments
baby
AF+ Parenting & Family

I Regret To Inform You That Our Baby Will Be Throwing Up On Your Shirt

At first you don’t really know which of the baby’s behaviors are going to be a Thing and which are just the music playing in the lobby before you sit down for the show. But it seems like most people’s babies have a Thing.

Riese May 1, 2025 26 Comments
a baby was born
AF+ Queer Pregnancy

Our Birth Story Has Severe Features

Our birth story has everything: preclampsia with severe features, catheters, bloody explosions, ginger ale, nurses from heaven, a birthing ball used as a chair and the eventual debut of a really really cute little baby boy.

Riese April 8, 2025 30 Comments
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Money + Work

We’re Right Here: Finding Connection in My Community of Sex Workers

Whenever I think of the sex workers I befriended, the thing that always struck me is how different we all are.

Summer Tao March 27, 2025 2 Comments
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Health

What I Wish I Knew About Getting a Hysterectomy as a Trans Man

Surgery is allowed to suck, even when it’s a surgery that you really wanted.

Max Gross March 27, 2025 8 Comments
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Health

How Can Trans Women Deal With Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction is consistently counted among the most common sexual disorders. It’s also a topic close to my heart (and other organs) because I experience it.

Summer Tao March 6, 2025 13 Comments
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Parenting & Family

‘My Partner Is Hurt I’ve Changed My Mind About Having a Baby’

This is one of those incredibly difficult situations where you and your partner are both entitled to your feelings even though those feelings are at direct odds with each other.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 4, 2025 14 Comments
Jennifer Lopez in The Boy Next Door
First Person Valentine's Day

10 Years Ago, I Had the Most Chaotic Valentine’s Day Plans Possible

Chicago, Winter 2015. I’m doing a cringe-worthy, cliche version of Living In Chicago In Your Early Twenties.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 12, 2025 3 Comments
LESBIAN MOVIES FOR EVERY VALENTINE'S DAY VIBE
Movie Lists Valentine's Day

Lesbian Movies for Every Valentine’s Day Vibe

Whether you’re single, recently dumped, in love, or somewhere in between, we’ve got Valentine’s Day lesbian movie recs for you!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 11, 2025 4 Comments
Public health nurse Dora Rust-D'Eye teaches special prenatal class for single mothers. One in every 11 babies born to single mom.
AF+ Queer Pregnancy

Baby Steps #6: The Best Laid Birth Plans

Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it — and if there’s anything I can say about our little Prenatal Birth & Labor class, it is “there was a lot I did not know.”

Riese February 5, 2025 10 Comments
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AF+ Queer Pregnancy

Baby Steps #5: Fixing the Window

“If I’d made it this far into the pregnancy without being forced to face the reality that has inspired many of my generation to forego reproduction altogether, I could do so no longer.”

Riese January 22, 2025 4 Comments
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Book Features Travel

We Took a Gay Literary Road Trip Through Central Florida, and You Should Too!

As Florida now leads the nation in book bans, putting together a little Florida road trip travel guide oriented around independent bookstores feels meaningful. There’s more to this place than theme parks and beaches. Adding a Florida bookstore road trip to your next vacation in the sunshine state will let you see parts of this place in a deeper way.

Kristen Arnett January 7, 2025 6 Comments
HOLIGAYS: Shane
Comedy Holigays The L Word

New Years Resolutions but It’s Just Cool Things Shane Did in ‘The L Word’

In 2025, I will have an affair with an older married woman. 

Motti December 30, 2024 8 Comments
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Health

A Queer Guide to Starting Strength Training

The right time to start something new is anytime.

Stef Rubino December 26, 2024 12 Comments
HOLIGAYS The Family Stone
Christmas Movie Features

Why I Rewatch ‘The Family Stone’ Every Year

The Family Stone is many queer folks’ first introduction to warm, unconditional familial love.

Motti December 24, 2024 3 Comments
Carol
Comedy Holigays

How To Celebrate ‘Carol’ Day, Which Is Today!

It’s December 21 AKA the day Carol and Therese went on a pretty bad date at Carol’s house in New Jersey.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya December 21, 2024 1 Comment
HOLIGAYS scene from Yellowjackets where Shauna and Jeff have brunch with Jackie's parents
Comedy Holigays

Excuses To Leave Your Family Holiday but They’re Just Plot Points From Yellowjackets

“I don’t mean to be rude, but a wolf literally just ripped off half my friend’s face.”

Motti December 19, 2024
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