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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

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Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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What If All My Lesbian Bed Death Means I’m Not A Lesbian?

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My Newly Engaged Straight Best Friend Is Being Gay Towards Me

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It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

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My Girlfriend Won’t Give Me Her Money

Who owes who when someone’s got a safety net and someone else doesn’t? Also, is it okay to pocket an inheritance while preaching radical wealth redistribution?

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May 1, 2026

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Is This an Overdramatic Reaction To My Girlfriend Leaving Me

Your girlfriend left you for your friend — time to pack it in? Also, ideas for bisexual bachelorette party — “no strippers and no lentils”?

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Apr 24, 2026

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Help I Need Bush Confidence

She keeps turning down sex because’s not feeling great about her bikini line. And another reader struggles setting sexual boundaries with women.

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Apr 16, 2026

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What Do Animals in Dreams Mean?

What can fish mean in dreams? Bears? Dogs? Learn more and get some journal prompts for what to consider when an animal pops up in your dreamworld.

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Apr 13, 2026

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I Want To Run Away From The Community Org I Created

She wants to help her community, but the brutal feedback loop is killing her. Also: tips for strapping with a height-difference.

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Apr 9, 2026

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I Gotta Stop Lying To Them About My Psych Meds

How to tell your anti-big-pharma crush that you have a prescription. Also; how to take hot masc thirst traps!

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Apr 3, 2026

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How To Mystically Spring Clean

In spring, we sow what we might later reap (and what is good for our souls), so give, as you receive, with an open hand.

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Mar 30, 2026

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I’m a Newly Out Lesbian — Tell Me What To Read and Watch!

A newly out lesbian needs help deciding what to read and watch. Another is falling in love and pretty terrified about it.

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Mar 27, 2026

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You’ve Gotta Get Your Hands on the Second Issue of Our Queer Print Magazine

This season's hottest holiday gift — for yourself or the best queers you know — is queer media you can hold…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Riese

Dec 11, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

Anonymous

Jul 23, 2025

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The Sex of the Game

Mac Crane

May 15, 2025

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Is It Biphobic To Swear Off Dating Bisexuals?

A reader feels consistently “stung” by women who date men after dating her. Another needs help deciphering an ambiguous situation with someone they’re super interested in.

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She Wants an Open Relationship — and I Think I Know Why

She wants an open relationship and you’re worried that she’s just not that into you anymore. Also; a reader struggling to get over a tumultuous previous marriage and move on from trying to get that girl back.

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My Newly Engaged Straight Best Friend Is Being Gay Towards Me

Should you ask your best friend to stop flirting so hard with you? Also; a reader struggling to find something serious.

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It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

Having children was in your wedding vows — but now the world sucks so bad that you’ve changed your mind. Also: how to eat her out without breaking out.

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