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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

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Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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Dec 26, 2025

Does My Girlfriend Really Need This Much Alone Time?

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Dec 19, 2025

A Queer Guide To Setting New Year Intentions

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Dec 15, 2025

I Feel Weird About My Wife Hiring a Sex Worker

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Dec 12, 2025

5 across / 6 letters / "___ Einbinder: Everything Must Go" (stand-up special written by and starring ___ Einbinder)

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AF+ Mini Crossword Is Making Sourdough

BRB, gotta go feed my starter.

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Sep 27, 2024

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My Family Is Freaking Out That We Took Our Daughter To a Drag Brunch

The drag queens loved your toddler and your aunt is absolutely losing her mind! Also, can you ask your gf to shave her bush?

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Sep 26, 2024

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I Am Not Lorelai Gilmore But I Also Kind of Am

“Suddenly I was pregnant. And then I was a dropout. And then I was a single mother. I had no money or resources outside of my deeply evangelical family, the…

Kristen Arnett

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Sep 25, 2024

2 down / 5 letters / "The ___ Juror" (tongue-twisting movie title in "30 Rock")

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AF+ Mini Crossword Is Tongue-Twisting

Say that ten times fast.

Emet Ozar

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Sep 25, 2024

26 down / 4 letters / "A League of Their Own" actor Jacobson

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AF+ Crossword Will Tie You Up

As in, it might take a while. What did you think we meant?

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Sep 21, 2024

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Is It Fair For Our Newly Sober Friend To Make Our Group Hangs Sober Too?

It just feels weird that the one sober person gets to decide that no one else can drink at dinner? Also, these gendered baby gifts ffs!

the team

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Sep 20, 2024

5 down / 4 letters / Converse on AIM, perhaps

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AF+ Mini Crossword Is Just Here For the Friendship Bracelets

Does anyone have embroidery thread we can borrow?

Emet Ozar

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Sep 20, 2024

8 across / 6 letters / 2011 Dee Rees coming-of-age film that was added to the Criterion Collection in 2021

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AF+ Mini Crossword Is Spinning Off

Wheeee!!!!!!

Kate Hawkins

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Sep 18, 2024

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You’ve Gotta Get Your Hands on the Second Issue of Our Queer Print Magazine

This season's hottest holiday gift — for yourself or the best queers you know — is queer media you can hold…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Riese

Dec 11, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

Anonymous

Jul 23, 2025

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The Sex of the Game

Mac Crane

May 15, 2025

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Help Me Lord I Can’t Afford All These Weddings

What are the rules for plus ones contributing to wedding expenses? Also — is there any point in confessing your feelings to a long-distance crush?

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Should We Stay Together For The Money?

What happens if you literally can’t afford to break up? Also; a reader is very stressed about her brother’s A.I girlfriend — and her parent’s approval of it.

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I Feel Weird About My Wife Hiring a Sex Worker

A newly-out asexual isn’t so sure about their wife’s proposal for sex outside the marriage. Also; a reader wants to go to sex parties, but hold the kink.

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Am I Allowed To Get Mad At My Flaky Friend?

Your friend says she’s trying her hardest to show up despite her mental illness, but you’re still frustrated. Also: how to manage lingering feelings about someone you dated during a poly phase.

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