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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

Sep 8, 2025

FIRST PERSON

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

FIRST PERSON

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

PARENTING & FAMILY

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

first person

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

first person

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

parenting & family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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My Girlfriend Won’t Give Me Her Money

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Should I Hold Space For My Ex-Friend Detailing All The Times I Hurt Them

What do you owe someone during a friend breakup? Also, a reader wonders about the right time to ask if someone’s interested in dating them.

the team

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Dec 6, 2024

queer pregnancy

Telling Chosen Family, Bonding With Heterosexuals and a Lot of Dog Feelings

When do you start telling people that you’re pregnant and how should you do it? Is pregnancy the great equalizer when it comes to the straight family gaze? Do unborn…

Riese

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Dec 3, 2024

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My Girlfriend Thinks Bad Service Deserves a Bad Tip, I Disagree

Your server was really bad, but is it ever ok to leave a bad tip? Also, should you give unsolicited relationship advice to a friend?

the team

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Nov 29, 2024

One image shows a person wearing black hosiery with their knees pulled to their chest, while the other shows two people beginning to kiss.

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I’m Inexperienced and Panicked That I’ll Be Bad at Sex

How to navigate dating apps when you have very limited sexual experience?! Also, a reader feels isolated after experiencing profound family loss.

the team

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Nov 22, 2024

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How We Got Gay Pregnant

My wife and I are having a baby and this is the first edition of Baby Steps, a column about the gestation and eventual birth of this human child who…

Riese

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Nov 19, 2024

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Should I Dump My Trump-Loving Girlfriend?

Your girlfriend just straight up voted for Trump, so now what?? Also, a reader feels conflicted about Trump voters throwing her baby shower.

the team

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Nov 15, 2024

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How Can I Convince My Girlfriend To Accept Her Shot at Financial Freedom?

Your parents can help your girlfriend achieve some financial freedom, but she super doesn’t see it that way. Plus, a reader wonders if cis people can use “they/them”?

the team

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Nov 8, 2024