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My Girlfriend’s Ex Sent Me a Warning Message. Should I Hear Her Out?

Your new girlfriend’s ex has tracked you down and has some things to tell you! Also, how to stay COVID-safe while getting more involved in queer kink communities.

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Halloween

Last Minute Halloween Costumes for Transmascs

Maybe you were scheduled for a barshift Halloweekend so you didn’t bother putting anything together and at the last minute got off. Or your situationship ended abruptly and now your couple’s costume is useless without your second half. We’ve got you covered.

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Slightly Unhinged but Mostly Realistic Costume Ideas for Two Moms With Kids

Are you a queer family still deciding on the best Halloween costume for yourself, your partner and your adorable child (or children!)? We’re here to help.

Riese October 23, 2025 4 Comments
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Brooklyn’s Top Lesbian Pie Eaters Compete for Delicious Glory

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‘Gen V’ Episode 208 Recap: How it Ends for Marie and Friends

I will forever love that — in this world of Homelander and literal Nazis taking over, which isn’t too far from our own reality — the hero of this show was a young, queer, Black woman.

Valerie Anne October 22, 2025 3 Comments
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Queer Horoscopes for Scorpio Season 2025

Scorpio season takes place when the veil between this world and the next is so thin that we can perceive much more than usually meets the eye.

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Reneé Rapp Is Giving the Gays Everything They Want (Jennifer Beals)

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Valerie Anne October 20, 2025 6 Comments
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Queer Dream Interpretation: Five Common Nightmare Images and What They Mean

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Quiz: What’s Your Job on the Lesbian Commune?

I’ll assign you your role to play in this very gay, anticapitalist, antipatriarchal, absolutely drama-filled intentional community!

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16 Pretty Good Lesbian Shows We’re Pretty Sure You Haven’t Seen Yet

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Was I A Fool To Think They’d Kiss Me Back?

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