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Summer Tao February 4, 2025 10 Comments
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Pop Culture Fix

Emilia Pérez Star Karla Sofía Gascón’s Unhinged Racist Tweets Have Killed Her Oscar Campaign

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TV Feature

Very Special Gay Episode: 15 Years Ago ‘Drop Dead Diva’ Cast Candis Cayne as a Trans Lesbian

Drop Dead Diva gave me more than I had ever dared to imagine from a pre-Obergefell comedy… not only were there dykes, one of them was trans.

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Fascist 404s: The Government Is Deleting Vital LGBTQ Health Resources and Data

More than 8,000 web pages with vital information across a dozen government websites have been removed from the internet. These deletions are far-reaching, targeting diversity initiatives and pretty much anything pertaining to gender equality.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 3, 2025 3 Comments
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Music

The Top Gay Moments of the 2025 Grammys

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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 3, 2025 5 Comments
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Movie Features

Sundance 2025: A Gay and Trans Festival Recap

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Drew Burnett Gregory February 3, 2025 5 Comments
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Movie Reviews

Sundance 2025: ‘Heightened Scrutiny’ Is a Tribute to Trans Solidarity

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Drew Burnett Gregory February 2, 2025 2 Comments
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Quizzes

Quiz: What Lesbian Form of Transportation Are You?

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Movie Reviews

Sundance 2025: ‘Sally’ Is a Documentary Portrait of Sally Ride and Her Secret Lesbian Partner of 27 Years

Sally Ride’s partner of 27 years, Tam O’Shaughnessy, is the true star of this film.

Drew Burnett Gregory February 2, 2025
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Book Lists

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TV Show Recaps

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Movie Lists TV Lists

February 2025: What’s New, Gay and Streaming on Netflix, Hulu, Max, Paramount+, Prime Video and Peacock

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Movie Reviews

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Movie Reviews

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AF+

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Movie Features

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Movie Reviews

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