Queer Sex Coven: A Relationship Format Tarot Spread
Pull a card to see which relationship format is right for you.
“I’m Not Missing Anything in My Relationship”: Bi Women and Nonbinary People on the Challenges and Joys of Dating
Bi people’s dating experiences are often complicated by biphobia and sometimes, a feeling of isolation from both queer and straight monosexual people.
The Elusive Three-Way Relationship: How to Avoid F*cking It Up
A how-to guide to your first polyamorous adventure, from someone who made all the mistakes so you don’t have to.
The Rituals of Love in Everyday Life
Having settled into sweet solitary contentment, I wasn’t looking for love. It found me anyway. Meeting an old friend, I was struck by Cupid’s arrow when I realized she was single.
You Need Help: Navigating Aggression, Desire and Gender in Dating
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
16 Ways to Grow Closer to Your Boo Without Actually Moving in Together
“Whatever, it’s fine. Give them your kidney. Then take one of their kidneys. It’s a kidney swap.”
You Need Help: What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?
What is it you are unlearning? What are the narratives about yourself that you are unraveling from your heart like so much tangled yarn? And can you be gentle through the unraveling?
Articles Published on The Toast That I Later Learned Were About Me, a Partial List
“Looking back the flirtation was sort of obvious? Danny characterized the general tone as ‘I wanted you to know I didn’t speak French, but that I was still smart.'”
5 Unofficial Lesbian Relationship Milestones
Whereas we are conditioned to expect a First Date, followed by landmarks like Carefully Crafted First Instagram Post as a Couple and Attending Family Event in Neutral-Toned Sweater, a gay relationship may look more like Be Codependent Best Friends for Three Years Before Realizing You’re In Love Without Ever Going on a Date, followed by Emotionally Turbulent Road Trip to Visit Your Ex’s Rural Co-Op Together.
What I’m Saying Is You’re Stuck With Me
February 7th was our 14th dating anniversary and our 8th marriage anniversary. The truth is, I didn’t see myself married, in a house we own, with a child I carried, in a place in my life where I don’t want to move away or run off to the next tempting thing. I never thought I’d want stability, but here we are.
Monday Roundtable: I Learned It by Watching You
They say you learn your first lessons about how to be a person from your family, and that applies to chosen family, too. Today we’re sharing something we learned from watching another Autostraddle staffer that’s made our life better and brighter.
How to Make Long Distance Dating Sexy and Keep Things H.O.T. in Your L.D.R.
It is hard to feel so far from the people you care about. This shit is not easy. But! We choose these relationships anyway, for our varied reasons, and gosh darnit we are gonna have some sexy fun while we’re here!
Your Girlfriend’s Family Is Racist and You Should Probably Get the Hell Out of There
“How much do I need to engage with my serious girlfriend’s racist immediate family members? She is close with them, and I’ve spent time with them in the past, but put simply I no longer have the energy or inclination to do so, even though I love my gf.”
Starstruck: Find Out What Your Crush’s Mars Sign Says About Your Compatibility (and Their Sex Drive)
Mars helps us assert ourselves. It helps us go after what we want. Mars is our individuality. I want. I need. I desire.
How to Navigate Polyamory as a Non-Primary Partner
Always a side piece and never a main piece? We’ve got you covered.
8 Self-Help Books about Lesbian Relationships
Here are eight non-fiction self-help books about lesbian relationships, partnerships, marriage, and dating!
Starstruck: Here’s What Venus, Planet of Love, Says About Your Astrological Compatibility
Venus is asking your partner to tie your tie, and putting on a garter belt and stockings just as they’re leaving for work to maybe make them stay a few extra minutes, and putting on an old thing they got you ages ago that will make them weepy because oh my god, how do you still have it? Venus is call and response.
You Can Leave Your Partner Who Scares You
“I’ve been dating this person for four years who is genuinely the light of my life but has some anger management issues. Though they would never, ever turn that anger towards me, it still terrifies me just witnessing it. They are aware of it, but I don’t think they’ll ever go to therapy about it. They don’t really want to even though they acknowledge it’s a problem.”
Starstruck: What to Know About Your Mercury Sign for Astrological Compatibility
Communication, of course, is the bedrock of any relationship — romantic, sexual, platonic. And yet! Mercury gets totally overlooked when it comes to synastry, or the astrology of relationships. Not today, though; let’s talk about how you process!
Starstruck: What Your Moon Sign Says About Your Romantic Compatibility
The moon governs your emotions, habits, and instincts. When it comes to relationships, this is important! Your moon is how you are emotional. It’s how you express your tender little queer heart!