Is Monogamy Cool Again?
Is the era of polyamory over? Are more queer people returning to monogamy? Or is it just a shift in the cultural conversation?
After 11 Years Together, My Partner Suddenly Wants To Call Off Our Engagement
“I feel like I’ve built a whole personality around accommodating her schedule: apologizing for her absences and filling in for what she doesn’t make time for (cooking, housework).”
You Need Help: I Live With My Partner and Their Ex-Girlfriend and It’s Getting Hard
“I’m a lesbian in my early twenties and I have been in a relationship with my enby partner for a year and a half. We share a flat with several other (queer) people in Copenhagen, one of whom is my partner’s ex-girlfriend.”
Cheating Is Not Abuse
Consensual sex between adults should never be treated as a crime. It might be a horrible betrayal; it’s still not abuse.
I Confronted My Girlfriend About Cheating On Me, She Responded By Coming Out as Poly
Is this ever an okay way for a poly relationship to begin?
You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
The 12 Lesbian Love Languages
You might be familiar with the 5 Love Languages — but do you know the 12 Lesbian Love Languages? Great news, I just made them up: from “premature commitment” to “nesting” to “gay chaos,” let’s dig into this life-altering and deeply scientific understanding of what makes it all work out.
You Need Help: What If You Never Want To Move In Together?
“I asked her if there’s a world in which we always live separately but still spend most nights together, and she didn’t say no but she also said she was having a hard time imagining it.”
Forget New Relationship Energy, Embrace Stable Relationship Energy
Rather than striving for New Relationship Energy within a relationship that isn’t new, why don’t we embrace Stable Relationship Energy?
Asking My Fiancée Questions I Don’t Know the Answers to a Month Before Our Wedding
“Have you ever called someone the wrong name during sex?”
You Need Help: How Do I Make Myself Like My Girlfriend’s Cat?
You already did things right by talking about this before moving in together. Now it’s time to talk some more.
You Need Help: I Moved Closer to My Girlfriend but She’s Too Busy for Me
The person who moved shouldn’t be the only person experiencing change.
You Need Help: Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex, but There’s Something Deeper Here
You are telling me one thing, which is that your wife and you communicate well and she cares for you, and then I am seeing something different, which is that your needs are continuously deprioritized in the relationship, and that seems to be how things play out when it comes to your wife’s actions.
You Need Help: How Do I Stop Bringing Baggage From My Last Relationship Into My New One?
This is where it gets really scary: Growing together requires communication.
You Need Help: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Want To Have Sex
To me, both of these things are true: 1. People’s sex drives can change for any number of reasons, at any time and 2. If sex is important to you, that’s valid, too!
You Need Help: My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex — How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?
Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.
You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?
It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.
18 Really F*cking Cute and Gay True Stories About How You Met Your Partner
“In 2021, our parents ran into each other at Lowe’s and were basically like “Hey, my kid’s gay and mentally ill too!”
7 Signs It’s Time for Couples Therapy, According to a Queer Relationship Therapist
You don’t have to wait for an extreme problem to seek out couples therapy.
You Need Help: How Can I Make Long Distance More Bearable?
Long distance will always be challenging; here are the ways you can strengthen the way you navigate those challenges.