Poly Pocket: The Communication Cushion
Here’s how a 28-year-old Arab-American queer demisexual cis woman living in the urban Midwest does ethical non-monogamy.
Queer Crip Love Fest: Radically Vulnerable Feminist Pep Talk
“We met on the first day of high school. I was drawn to her for some reason. She was reading; that might have been it. She had glasses; that could have been it, too.”
Poly Pocket: Queer, Poly, Living On A Boat
“Boats have also been incredibly healing for me and have really helped me create better relationships in all parts of my life. They make me work harder to maintain my friendships, be better at communication, and generally just better at existing around all different kinds of people.”
Queer Crip Love Fest: Nobody Can Go Through This World Alone
In the spirit of gathering our strength and resisting the living hell out of these next four years, I bring you our sweetest installment to date — along with some notes for the revolution.
Poly Pocket: It’s Not The Structure, It’s The People
How a newly-into-ladies 32-year-old multiracial cis queer lady in a big blue city in the deep red American South does poly.
Poly Pocket: Dreaming of a World With Less Fear, More Vulnerability As A Black Trans Queer Person
“I view polyamory as a structure that’s helpful in me decolonizing my love life and the way I view relationships. Having complete ownership of everything within the borders of my skin, and doing what I desire with it and with whom, is an incredible “fuck you” to the systems of oppression I seek to dismantle (and a fun one!).”
Poly Pocket: Polyamorous In A Monogamous Relationship
Here’s how a 32-year-old Japanese American queer polyamorous Southern Californian does polyamory within functional monogamy.
Poly Pocket: When Family and Friends Just Don’t Get It
“Family and friends tend to recognize her and her boyfriend and pretend that I don’t exist, mostly because they have been together longer and queer relationships are not respected or recognized.”
Poly Pocket: Being As Direct As Possible
Here’s how a 23-year-old native and Jewish queer trans woman with Cerebral Palsy living in Baltimore and dating a few people does poly.
Poly Pocket: This Is How Bisexual Comedian Gaby Dunn Does Poly
“You can just NOT LIE.”
La India y La Negrx: Intentional, Radical Love in My Queer Interracial Relationship
“Love in partnership as colonized/racialized bodies is courageously undressing the walls we have built to survive and showing others the chaos that war has left behind.”
Poly Pocket: Gray Ace, Bi & Poly
“Being queer, Asian-American, femme, and gray ace — this is my identity and I get to choose what that means to me.”
Poly Pocket: Building Intentional Community and Relationship Anarchy
Here’s how a 33-year-old queer, polyamorous, white, trans woman living in Chicago who’s married and has a long-term girlfriend does poly.
Poly Pocket: Solo Poly Without Hierarchy
“Not leaning into change is a lot like staring at your house while it’s on fire.”
You Need Help: Talking to Your Family About Your Partner’s Pronouns
If they are feeling hurt by people who don’t want to use their pronouns or just by a long day of having to gender in the world, listen to them and ask how you can help ease the stress.
Love Letters Across the Atlantic: How Distance Changes Your Relationship
“To date long distance then live with the other in person is to be in two versions of the same relationship. One wishes desperately for the future and is fueled by daydreams of the past; the other tries to make every waking moment something special and ignores the fact that time is passing, whether we like it or not.”
You Need Help: How Soon Is Too Soon To U-Haul, Get Married, Have Ten Babies, Be Together Forever and Ever and Ever and Ever?
“…there’s a value in extending the period of time in which the way you build a life together is directed only by what’s in your heart and guts and brain, not by leases and legal documents and bill payments and shared sofas.”
You Need Help: Will Studying Abroad Break Us Up?
Studying abroad or going long distance isn’t a death knell for a relationship, but I’m hearing something else in your question.
You Need Help: You’re Bisexual and Your Girlfriend Wishes You Weren’t
“Am I in denial? Should I view this as a total dealbreaker? What is a girl to do?”
Dear Able-Bodied Partner
“I’ve been disabled for as long as I’ve been a woman, gay and, y’know, alive. So I don’t even know how it’s possible to “see past” something so fully baked into my experience. Instead, I need you to work a little harder and understand disability as part of my value rather than a caveat on it.”