#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?
Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.
5 Good Reasons to Just Fart in Front of Your Partner Already
Consider this your invitation to stop hiding, loosen your cheeks and let your sphincter siren sing for the one(s) you love.
#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101
Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you I’m here to tell you the things that will hopefully make your transition into polyamorous relationships much smoother.
You Need Help: My Partner and I Have Different Sex Drives
You can’t change your partner, or her sex drive. All you can change is the situation you’re in.
Is That a Secure Attachment or Are You Just Happy to See Me: All About Our Attachment Styles
“Wow I’m making myself sound so fucked up! I promise I got 30 whole percent in secure attachment.”
Anatomy of a Mango: Pit
Even one-night-stands have a spirit to them, but I wasn’t willing to confront that until I stopped drinking. When I did, I was finally able to place my mind right within my body, to touch and be touched without fear. Having sober sex was a way for me to unravel the contempt I felt around my body and my sexuality.
You Need Help: When Is it Love?
I’m not saying this word doesn’t hold meaning — I’m saying the opposite. This word holds so many meanings.
Trans Love in Pandemic Times
Love without a blueprint leaves room for unknown possibilities. I spoke to seven trans people about how the pandemic has changed their relationships and how trans love has changed their lives.
You Need Help: Is It Normal To Be Happy In a Relationship and Still Think About an Ex?
Time won’t necessarily “fix” it, but the more distance you have from the relationship and the more time you invest in healthy coping mechanisms, the less destabilizing these thoughts will feel.
Our Deepest, Darkest Relationship Fears, NBD
“My biggest relationship fear is that my desire to not be controlled means that I’ll be alone forever and never receive any feeling of comfort or security. Yikes! Typing that out was fun.”
You Need Help: Quarantine Smothered My Sex Drive
If you use this opportunity to sharpen your communication, your dynamic will be stronger (and hotter) on the other side of a crisis.
How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy During a Global Crisis
Tips and tricks from a therapist and multiple queer couples about how to keep your communication and boundaries strong.
Surprise, You’re In A Long Distance Relationship Now!
Here’s some advice about how to weather a long distance relationship during a global pandemic, whether you and your babe live in different countries or just a few blocks away.
You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Being Monogam-ish With My Bi Girlfriend?
“Right off the top, it’s crucial for me to say this: being monogamous and being bisexual are not mutually exclusive. This is a really problematic stereotype that has to go, like yesterday.”
You Need Help: Why Am I So Tempted to Cheat?
Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences. Cheating, if we don’t get caught, does not.
Take It From Us: Relationship Myths We’d Like to Bust
“We can still be together while I talk shit about your fucking cat.”
10 Non-Confrontational Gifts For Your Girlfriend’s Other Partner
Need a gift that says, “Don’t worry — I’m a great communicator and navigating non-monogamy in a culture that privileges monogamous partnerships is totally easy for me?” Never fear!
Holigays: Sexy, Sweet Gifts for Long Distance Relationships
Loving someone far away makes us flex our creativity to connect in new ways. Here’s some gifts to get your long-distance sweetie so you can feel close to them, even when they’re 1,730 miles (or more) away.
Always Be My Baby: Our Semi-Professional Opinions on What Keeps Queer Couples Together
“I think there’s an idea out there that love just HAPPENS to you and it’s magic and not something you have to nurture to ensure it grows and thrives. That’s… a lie.”
You Need Help: Trusting Yourself in a New Relationship After Early Attachment Trauma
Possibly your trauma history is being triggered out of context in this relationship – but maybe it’s not. YOU are the expert, no matter what your trauma history is.