“Recently, I’ve found myself looking her ex’s profile or looking at old pictures of them on my girlfriend’s Instagram multiple times a day. I zoom in on the pictures & take in every detail, even going so far as to note how she does her makeup and attempting to replicate it sometimes.”
“I honestly want to cry, I am so tired. Every time I bring it up she cries.”
Your best friend is shaming you for the kind of porn that gets you off. Also; tips on having more threesomes.
Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Kristen Arnett discuss the sliding scale of gender expression and how a femme wife is like having an IRL Barbie.
“Am I valid to be unsettled? And is there anything I can do to facilitate a conversation with them about this?”
She’ll often play recent music and ask me if I know who it is when she knows the answer is no.
“Today, I was talking to a dear friend about the current state of my relationship. They told me that it sounds like I am trapped, and that I am being controlled. Worst of all, they said that my long-term partner ‘basically owns’ me.”
Nearly two years of cohabitation and you still haven’t farted around each other?! Also, a reader’s gf might be exhibiting (and triggering) some disordered eating habits.
She roasts your family for being so white, and you’re like… yep we are, that’s true! So now what? Also, let us plan your trip to Italy!
You’ve compromised for her, but she still judges you for smoking weed. Also, is this out-of-state queer wedding worth the PTO?
She knows you can’t afford the thing you need, but hasn’t even offered to help?! Also, we settle a debate about bookshelves!
Is it OK to tell your girlfriend you’d simply rather watch TV than exercise with her? Also, what to do when texting people back feels like homework!
“I feel like we intuitively understand each other and our needs in a lot of matters and are willing to figure it out when intuition isn’t enough. One area that we have not been able to find understanding around is physical intimacy.”
You’re not sure you’re ready to live with your girlfriend yet! Also, a reader is hurt by a friend’s rejection of her mother.
“I know there will be need to be a lot of conversations about what they’re feeling and conversations specific to how I can support them.”
An international couple ponders a visa marriage before Trump takes office. Also a reader wonders if dietary restrictions can be a dealbreaker.
Asking each other these 10 questions can set you up for a smoother move-in and create ongoing conversations about your needs and expectations for living together.
Your server was really bad, but is it ever ok to leave a bad tip? Also, should you give unsolicited relationship advice to a friend?
“I feel bad because obviously she’s texting me because she wants to talk to me, but I don’t like texting and I don’t want to constantly have such empty conversations.”
Also: Podcasts are extinct — just call your yappy girlfriend!