Dykes on Dates: A Chill, Food-Filled Day on the Upper West Side
If you’ve never been to the American Museum of Natural History before, let me tell you about the whale.
Dykes on Dates: Tender Pork Tacos That Are Too Good To Be True
There’s probably a joke in here about being a bottom, but genuinely a lot of my favorite date night dinners involve, well, toppings.
Dykes on Dates: Here’s a Picnic Menu That Feels Fancy but Is Cheap and Easy
In which I forget a crucial part of our picnic at home but we still have a lovely time anyway.
Dykes on Dates: Parents Weekend
We went on a bunch of double dates with my parents, and it made me realize our relationships are more similar than I thought.
How Polyamory Pushed Me to Prioritize My Pelvic Health
Communicating openly about sex and pelvic health with my partners helps me advocate for myself in medical settings.
Dykes on Dates: Sometimes Date Night Is Just Chips, Dips, and a Drink Tasting
This was truly the least amount of food prep I’ve ever done for an at-home date night.
You Need Help: My Partner and I Disagree About Our COVID Risk Reduction Practices
Sometimes, after dealing with an active crisis as a team, it’s the period afterward that can start to pull us apart. There’s more time and space for your individual needs and feelings; it’s not surprising that this is when the resentment can really start to build!
Dykes on Dates: Tips for Topping (Homemade Pizza)
You don’t have to be a seasoned home chef to make pizza date night a reality! I’ve got tips for all skill levels and price points.
Dykes on Dates: Bowling Is the Epitome of Romance
You get to talk a bunch, like a dinner date but with an added activity — one almost insists you stare at your partner’s ass.
Heart Whisperer: How I Found My Way to a Love That’s Lasted 45 Years
In the autumn of 1977, I met the partner of my dreams, and we’ve been sailing through life together ever since.
You Need Help: My Partner Keeps Saying We’re Going to Break Up!
The fact that you feel affected by what your partner tells you, even when they’re not their best self, is not inappropriate or bad. It’s human.
Homo Reno: 13 Tips for Keeping Your 5 Year Queer Relationship Intact While Renovating the House You Live In
Sometimes you are going to have to undertake a project during which it will be inevitable that you will scream at each other. My advice is to just kind of pretend it didn’t happen.
You Need Help: I Think My Partner Is Emotionally Cheating On Me
The idea that we must save our intimate, intense feelings only for our partners is a deeply heteronormative one, and I don’t want us to adhere to it.
When One of Us Transitioned, Our Relationship Changed for the Better
By the time the lockdown lifted, she (Lucy) had kicked a life-long nail biting habit, and I (Summer) had come out as transgender.
You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Really Attracted to My Partner?
Humans can sometimes be unreliable narrators of our own lives.
You Need Help: You Fat-Shamed Your Beautiful Girlfriend
If your girlfriend wrote into this column with this story, I would tell her she should break up with you.
You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice
I want you to start 2023 feeling like your own number-one pick. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and confident to be her number-one pick, too.
How I’m Rewriting the “Trophy Wife” Script As a Queer Trans Woman
I want to be treasured for my many wonderful qualities beneath the surface and held proudly by the person who chooses to date me.
You Need Help: I Want to Work on Myself, How Do I Do That?
I have behaviors I notice that spill into my relationship that stem from personal issues. I want to be a better person to myself, and my partner. I want to feel like my cup is full as I am, and then be able to use that to help fill our cup.
You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?
I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.