Maybe the reason your friend/the older self-professed queen at the bar/your co-worker/that girl Claire won’t stop talking about finding someone is because they have 25 times more Keurig flavor options than the whole of their supposed dating pool — we’re scientifically improbable.
“We would have totally fallen in love as Hogwarts professors.”
“Which of our astrological sun signs is more of a bitch.”
We asked 3,500+ women in same-sex relationships what they fought about — from drinking too much to not seeing each other enough to being jealous of exes, here’s the results!
“I locked myself in the bathroom because she kept telling me I wasn’t cleaning the toilet the right way”
“Whether or not selfie culture upholds or demolishes the patriarchy”
We’re interested in finding out more about your relationship — specifically, the hard parts. If you’re a woman of any sexual orientation in a relationship with another woman (or multiple women), you should fill this out! It’ll take 10-15 minutes, max.
HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?
You are in love with someone who wants different things. What do you do?
This is not a how-to guide; there’s no right way to navigate these situations. Let’s share instances of microaggressions and some ways to deal in the hopes we’ll all be able to make it out alive, looking sexy and loving our hardest.
Sometimes we love people who don’t share our same value systems or knowledge sets. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t love them, but it can mean we need to work hard to make sure we aren’t compromising our own values just to placate them.
Your girlfriend wants an open relationship and you agreed to it, but now you feel terrible all the time. What to do?
“When my boyfriend came out to me as trans, he was worried what that would mean for me and us. It’s a few months later and I should be really happy for him. And I am! But I’m starting to feel kind of lost and scared and I don’t know if it has to do with the fact, that he is, of course, changing.”
What do you do when your girlfriend has a secret bromance with a girl you once wanted to romance?
“She told me she’d been raped… She’s feeling embarrassed and ashamed and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do… and everything seems a mess.”
8. How is it possible that one person can leave so many half-empty glasses of water around the house in a matter of hours? How is this a thing?!
1. Communication. 2. Lots of communication. 3. So much communication. 4. No really, communicate. 5. Seriously just talk about things!!!!
I realized that one of the hardest parts about accepting my sexual orientation was that I literally did not believe that Black women were lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals or queer. I want to see stories of Black women with happy endings that entwine with my own realities and fantasies. I want to see us Black women no longer the Unmentionables or Untouchables, unafraid of the power and beauty of us loving one another.
Even if we can’t spring for round-trip tickets for two to a shared favorite destination or get enough time off work to visit for a long weekend, we can make it an adorable night.
Through sickness and in health, not just a meaningless vow. Ten easy ways to nurture your girl through illness for the nurturing impaired, plus cute animal pictures!