‘My Partner Talks on the Phone With Their Abusive Ex Every Day’
“Am I valid to be unsettled? And is there anything I can do to facilitate a conversation with them about this?”
‘My Girlfriend Thinks My Music Taste Is Trash’
She’ll often play recent music and ask me if I know who it is when she knows the answer is no.
Capitalism Is a B*tch, but I Can’t Help My Friends Anymore
Should you keep recommending your friends for jobs, when they keep dropping the ball? Also, we help a reader whose younger friend isn’t taking their dating advice.
‘I Want To Flee My Relationship’
“Today, I was talking to a dear friend about the current state of my relationship. They told me that it sounds like I am trapped, and that I am being controlled. Worst of all, they said that my long-term partner ‘basically owns’ me.”
‘How Can I Be a Good Girlfriend When My Partner Is Extremely Anxious About Sex’
“I feel like we intuitively understand each other and our needs in a lot of matters and are willing to figure it out when intuition isn’t enough. One area that we have not been able to find understanding around is physical intimacy.”
‘I Want To Support My Partner Who Is Starting HRT’
“I know there will be need to be a lot of conversations about what they’re feeling and conversations specific to how I can support them.”
10 Questions for Couples To Ask Each Other Before Moving in Together
Asking each other these 10 questions can set you up for a smoother move-in and create ongoing conversations about your needs and expectations for living together.
‘I Love My Girlfriend but Sometimes She Annoys Me’
“I feel bad because obviously she’s texting me because she wants to talk to me, but I don’t like texting and I don’t want to constantly have such empty conversations.”
American Highway Infrastructure Is Evil and Other Lessons From My Long Distance Lesbian Relationship
Also: Podcasts are extinct — just call your yappy girlfriend!
Forget U-Hauling — These Queer Couples Don’t Want To Move In Together At All
You’ve heard the one about lesbians wanting to move in together on the second date, but what about the couples who aren’t looking to move in together at all?
‘My Partner and I Have Completely Different Concepts of Bedtime’
I really do want to be able to go to bed together.
The Ultimate Guide To Being Happy in a Lesbian Long Distance Relationship
For as long as there are lesbians, there will be lesbians in long distance relationships it seems.
Broke and Lonely? “Lavender Marriage” May Be For You!
Gen Zers who are tired of being “broke, single, and lonely” are drawn to the idea of a rebranded “lavender marriage” as a way to enjoy marriage’s practical benefits without all the sex and romance.
What Are Mixed Orientation Relationships?
And what can we learn from dating people with sexual orientations different from our own?
‘I’m Married, My Ex Just Said She’s in Love With Me, and I Don’t Know What To Do’
“I’ve done a lot of processing, but I am super confused. I don’t know what feelings are memories from the past and what is today.”
‘Quarantine Was Great for My Relationship’
“How do we get back to where we were without literally going back to where we were during lockdown?”
‘My Wife Is in the Early Stages of Transitioning, and I Feel Weird About Keeping Her Identity a Secret’
“It feels like she’s never going to be fully out and that this is just how the rest of our life together is going to be.”
10 Challenges of a Long Distance Relationship That Have Nothing To Do With the Relationship
Here are the ten biggest challenges I’ve faced as someone who splits my time between two countries because an Instagram crush got out of hand and whoops I fell madly in love.
‘The Lack of Physical Affection From My Girlfriend Is Becoming Unbearable’
“I just feel like a huge 30-year-old crybaby thinking about asking for more physical affection and, on my worst days, starting to think ‘maybe moving in was a mistake.'”
What My Queer Long Distance Relationship Taught Me About Trust
Dating as a lesbian has its own barriers even without an anxiety disorder.