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Identity

‘I Finally Realized I’m a Biromantic Homosexual. Now What?!’

“Am I totally alone in this bizarre orientation?”

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Gender LGBT History Politics + Activism

Trans Activist Miss Major Griffin-Gracy Lived a Long, Beautiful Life

One of our most influential and remarkable trans queer elders — Miss Major Griffin-Gracy — has died at the age of 78.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Riese
October 14, 2025 1 Comment
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Coming Out

‘Am I Queer or Just Repulsed by Straight Norms?’

There is no such thing as being queer “enough.” There is just being queer.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 7, 2025 11 Comments
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AF+ Gender

I’m a Cis Butch Woman, and Boy Do I Want Top Surgery!

Can you feel dysphoric about your boobs even if you’re not trans? Also, tips on how to learn to love your body as you come into your queerness.

the team September 12, 2025 3 Comments
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Coming Out

‘I Really Want To Be Bi but I’m Unsure HELP’

Life got much easier when I learned I could keep a bunch of labels/self-identities in my pocket and swap them out as necessary.

Summer Tao September 2, 2025 10 Comments
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Gender Music

Lorde Doesn’t Need To Know If She’s Trans To Make a Trans Anthem

Lorde’s new single, “Man of the Year”, is full of early trans feelings. That includes not knowing if she’s even trans.

Drew Burnett Gregory May 29, 2025 5 Comments
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Gender

Butch Feels Like Home

Masc lesbians in India are challenging gender norms and finding comfort in masculinity and stone butch identity.

Stuti Gupta May 29, 2025 14 Comments
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Identity

‘I Met a Lesbian Married to a Man and I’m Confused’

Once upon a time, I was a lesbian with a boyfriend, so I’m uniquely qualified to answer this one.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya April 22, 2025 83 Comments
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Identity

Arab Lesbianism Is Not an Oxymoron

The invention of homophobia is an inherently Western, colonialist ideal that was forced upon the SWANA world.

Noor Aldayeh April 9, 2025 5 Comments
Gender

‘Can Trans Men Be Butches?’

And what makes a butch, butch?

Summer Tao March 25, 2025 12 Comments
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Gender

‘I Want To Change My Name Again’

Wanting to change your name now after people have adjusted will not make you a burden.

Summer Tao March 18, 2025 7 Comments
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Gender

‘I’m Lost in the Gender Expression Sauce’

“I always thought, if I weren’t a trans man, I’d be a butch lesbian.”

Summer Tao March 11, 2025 2 Comments
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Gender Politics + Activism

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Like many trans people in recent weeks, I’ve found myself buried in government paperwork and waiting in lines at various agencies.

Reed January 28, 2025 13 Comments
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Gender

I’m Legally Changing My Name and Sex Designation, and I Feel Complicated About It

As much as my transition is a deeply personal journey, the external pressures and political environment complicate this process in ways I never anticipated.

Reed November 27, 2024 10 Comments
"It's not lost on me that this exact type of story is catnip to those who would seek to tear down the rights of trans people."
Gender

‘I Identified As Non-Binary for Years but I Think I’m Cis’

Gender exploration is for everyone, regardless of starting point or expectations.

Summer Tao September 17, 2024 12 Comments
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With T4T Care and More Effective Results, Bluebird Is Revolutionizing Hair Removal for Trans Women

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Drew Burnett Gregory September 4, 2024 3 Comments
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Gender

Always the Daddy, Never the Dad

It might seem ridiculous to you, reader, to hear a man compare queer kink to biological fatherhood, but I’m trepidatiously taking the stand in defense of duality.

Milo Longenecker August 22, 2024 79 Comments
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Gender Movie Lists

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Drew Burnett Gregory August 19, 2024 29 Comments
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AF+ Gender Relationships

Is My Butchness Ruining Our Relationship?

Your style is leaning more masculine these days, and compliments from your girlfriend have dried up. Also we share reading recs on the topic of gender and desire!

the team July 19, 2024 3 Comments
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First Person Gender

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Every time I have gotten the opportunity to do mediocre drag as a beginner, I have had some of the most fun a person can have.

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