You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
Untethered: The Designated Girl-Son
I came across the concept of the “designated son” on TikTok.
Transition Is Allowed To Feel Bad Sometimes
Realistically, I understand that if you do something for 11 months, the chance that you’ll feel good for every second of those 11 months is zero.
How To Support Your Transitioning Partners and Friends
It can be helpful to see a transition as smaller, interlocked transitions.
Top 10 Things I’m Looking Forward to After Top Surgery
8. Being slutty in tank tops and vests
You Need Help: As a Transmasc, Am I Welcome in Lesbian Spaces?
You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest, community, and so much more.
A Trans Guy’s Guide to the Men’s Bathroom
2) Men do not lock the door.
In Genderqueer, a Word To Call Home
It conveys a sense of expansiveness that I’ve felt about my gender since before I had the words to identify it; a joyful space of experimentation and potential.
Billie Eilish Is “Gay & Tired,” Also “Physically Attracted to Women”
Billie Eilish used Instagram’s “gay & tired” filter, and it has some fans going 👀
You Need Help: Am I Erasing Bisexuality?
There are many people who will try to be strict about the definition of “bisexual” and “lesbian.” At times, I have been that person. I have also been a person who identifies as both at different points in my life.
Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious Queerness This Ace Week
Even while it is a great time to be ace, anti-ace rhetoric continues to circulate in queer communities.
15 Creative Ways To Come Out to Your Family, Friends and/or the Entire World
You could come out to your Mom in the car while driving to the outlet mall, but alternately, you could come out to your Mom via interpretive dance.
Bisexuality, Queerness, Labels, Perception: A Conversation Between the EIC and the HBIC
Autostraddle’s Editor-in-Chief and Head Bisexual-in-Charge talk bisexual discrimination on dating apps, biphobic stereotypes in queer relationships, “the patriarchy,” and having tent sex in the woods.
Founder Esther Godoy on the Evolution of Butch Is Not a Dirty Word
“It was only ever supposed to be a silly little stand alone zine.”
You Need Help: I Feel Disconnected From Gender As a Concept
“Identifying as a woman doesn’t feel right, but affirmatively identifying as ‘not a woman’ also doesn’t feel right.”
Can You Feel the Kenergy?
There’s a specific kind of trans masc quality to the way that Ken dresses and takes up space if I’m being honest. That’s the siren call, the Kenergy,
You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Misgendering as a Nonbinary Femme?
Your work is not to make yourself more palatable to those who might misunderstand you. Your work is to be your glorious full self, too complex to be pigeonholed by any other person on this earth. And if your friends can’t respect you? They’re not your people.
Data Party! Insights into Nonbinary Readers from the 2022 Reader Survey
Autostraddle-exclusive insights into our nonbinary readers!
Getting Strong: A Conversation Between Two Nonbinary Humans About Weight Lifting
“When I say getting strong rules, I don’t have any number or definition in mind when I say that. It’s cool for people, as INDIVIDUALS, to feel like they’re strong and capable and I encourage that whether you’re bench pressing 45 pounds or 445.”
Autism Is Not a Trend, but There Are Problems With How It’s Discussed Online
Health conditions and disabilities are more than how many views a 20-second clip gets or the number of comments under a post. It’s real-life shit that can affect the core of who somebody is.