4 Moments During My Transition When Womanhood ‘Clicked’ for Me
1. When targeted ads began spooning wedding crap onto my feed.
Why I’m Compiling Queer and Trans Goodbye Letters to Places We’ve Left Behind
I stand with the grief of maps and the ways I bittersweetly still carry the places I left.
You Need Help: Everyone Thinks I’m Lying To Myself About My Gender
“If you were to ask me my gender, I’d say ‘lesbian.’ The problem is people in my life will not stop asking me if I’m nonbinary or trans. Everyone keeps asking if I have new pronouns.”
I’m Masculine, I Strap, I Love Being Called “Sir”… Am I Trans or a Masc Lesbian?
In this week’s AF+ Advice box: trying to figure out if you’re trans or a masculine lesbian, finding good lesbian love poems for a wedding, complicated feelings about an ex and group chat drama.
Here’s to Another Year of Legally Being a Man
This year marks my fourth year of being a feminine catastrophe. Except my paperwork still claims that I’m some f*cking guy.
What Can a Nonbinary Transition Look Like?
People often understand being non-binary as a mix of feminine and masculine characteristics. That’s a start, but it doesn’t do justice to non-binary diversity.
You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
Untethered: The Designated Girl-Son
I came across the concept of the “designated son” on TikTok.
Transition Is Allowed To Feel Bad Sometimes
Realistically, I understand that if you do something for 11 months, the chance that you’ll feel good for every second of those 11 months is zero.
How To Support Your Transitioning Partners and Friends
It can be helpful to see a transition as smaller, interlocked transitions.
Top 10 Things I’m Looking Forward to After Top Surgery
8. Being slutty in tank tops and vests
You Need Help: As a Transmasc, Am I Welcome in Lesbian Spaces?
You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest, community, and so much more.
A Trans Guy’s Guide to the Men’s Bathroom
2) Men do not lock the door.
In Genderqueer, a Word To Call Home
It conveys a sense of expansiveness that I’ve felt about my gender since before I had the words to identify it; a joyful space of experimentation and potential.
Billie Eilish Is “Gay & Tired,” Also “Physically Attracted to Women”
Billie Eilish used Instagram’s “gay & tired” filter, and it has some fans going 👀
You Need Help: Am I Erasing Bisexuality?
There are many people who will try to be strict about the definition of “bisexual” and “lesbian.” At times, I have been that person. I have also been a person who identifies as both at different points in my life.
Celebrating Asexuality’s Glorious Queerness This Ace Week
Even while it is a great time to be ace, anti-ace rhetoric continues to circulate in queer communities.
15 Creative Ways To Come Out to Your Family, Friends and/or the Entire World
You could come out to your Mom in the car while driving to the outlet mall, but alternately, you could come out to your Mom via interpretive dance.
Bisexuality, Queerness, Labels, Perception: A Conversation Between the EIC and the HBIC
Autostraddle’s Editor-in-Chief and Head Bisexual-in-Charge talk bisexual discrimination on dating apps, biphobic stereotypes in queer relationships, “the patriarchy,” and having tent sex in the woods.
Founder Esther Godoy on the Evolution of Butch Is Not a Dirty Word
“It was only ever supposed to be a silly little stand alone zine.”