The Films That Helped Me Feel At Home In My Agender Experience
Being agender is something like the impossible made possible, as rare and unexpected as accidentally landing in the spirit realm, or happening upon mermaids in Poland.
The Catch-22 of Being a Trans Woman Athlete
A trans woman athlete’s thoughts on having her identity under public attack while feeling neglected by her community.
The Day I Decided to Be Out and Proud as a Transgender Medic
I am almost running to keep up with the nurse and make sure I am hearing every word she says. When we get to the room, I look at the patient and see… me.
Surprise, It’s Depression: Recovery from Gender-Affirming Surgery
After gender-affirming surgery, many trans people experience post-operative depression. Awareness and the knowledge that you aren’t alone can help.
I Wish I’d Medically Transitioned Before Giving Birth
Less than a year after giving birth, I decided to medically transition. I wish I’d done it sooner.
What Trans Visibility Could Mean for Trans People, and Everyone Else
Visibility can be a trap in many ways because we never got to set the terms by which we are viewed.
You Need Help: I Can’t Figure Out What I Should Wear and Who I Should Date
You don’t need to have one particular vibe, type, or style. You don’t have to have it all figured out now, next week, or next year.
How a Trans-Inclusive Manual for School Teachers Turned Controversial in India
The backlash that ensued after a trans-inclusive education manual was released demonstrated that post-independence India still reckons with the legacy of British colonialism.
My Gender Is Dyke
I wasn’t a woman, but a lesbian, an identity so powerful it’s the closest thing to a gender I have.
On Gender Fabrication and Femme Embodiment
There are so many things I may reach for to explain how I know I am a femme or an intersex non-binary woman but these words and concepts themselves are devised and constructed. Where do I anchor femmeness and how do I understand it?
Sex With An X: The Perils Of Performative Spelling
Inclusive spellings have a long, meaningful history, but the current usage, especially replacing certain vowels in words with an “x,” leaves much to be desired – and might actually be actively harmful.
You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?
Accept the messy questioning phase. It’s the whole point of being alive.
The Letter I Wrote to Santa This Year
When I was five years old, I knew what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wanted to be a boy. So I decided to write to Santa Claus and ask him to turn me into one for Christmas that year.
I’m Tired of Apologizing for My Intersex Trans Body
Within a binary understanding of sex, a binary understanding of gender, or a binary separation between sex and gender, I am impossible.
An Act of Service: Strapping My Dom As a Leatherdyke Bottom
I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.
How To Choose A Halloween Costume
Halloween costumes are traditionally scary – ghosts, goblins, political figures. Look back at the last 20 years and realize … that you frequently went an entire year wearing a costume and only got a reprieve on that one glorious October day. Terrifying.
Do You Know Where Your Straight People Are?: Interviews With Allies (Including Two Cats)
In honor of our biannual Straight People Day, we interviewed two heterosexual friends, two cishet cats, and one past self.
You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?
I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to have so many areas in your life where coming out simply isn’t an option.
Happy Coming Out Day! All Disney Stars Are Gay Now, We Don’t Make the Rules
It’s modern gay lore that if you were once a star on the Disney Channel, you’re gay now. And for this National Coming Out Day, we wanted to know the truth.
Three Bisexuals in Their 30s on Coming Out While in Long Term, Monogomous Relationships
“I didn’t want a divorce, didn’t want to open our relationship, didn’t want to start dating other people — I just wanted to own this piece of myself that I’d spent a lifetime denying.”