I’m Masculine, I Strap, I Love Being Called “Sir”… Am I Trans or a Masc Lesbian?

Welcome to the weekly AF+ Advice Box, in which we answer all the queer and lesbian advice questions from AF+ members who submitted their queries into our AF+ ask box!

How do I know if I'm trans, nonbinary, or a masculine lesbian?

Recently, I have been pondering this question and while I do believe that gender is or can be fluid, I am having a bit of an identity crisis and would love to hear some experiences from people who may have also pondered this or similar questions related to gender identity.

This is not the first time I have asked myself but I thought I had settled it. Now I'm not so sure. I used to wear my brother's clothing and have sexual preferences that involve strapping. I present very masculine in my clothing and ...

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