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Gender

How I Get Femme Visibility on the Streets

“I’ve figured out is that it’s not so much how I present it’s what I do. And I finally learned how to casually flirt with people with an eyebrow raise or a smile or a wink, which elicits this response of “I see you and I wink back.””

Bevin November 1, 2013 35 Comments
Gender

Quit Calling Elliott Sailors A Male Model—She’s More Interesting Than That

So why can’t anyone seem to talk about her the right way?

Cara October 31, 2013 25 Comments
Coming Out

Dear Queer Diary: Coming Out on Paper

Coming out, one page at a time.

Maggie October 3, 2013 60 Comments
Identity

You Need Help: On That Younger Possibly-Queer Human Who Might Need You

“I’m seventeen and I’ve already gone through my queer angst – and it kills me to see this kid alone almost all the time, they always look miserable and it reminds me of me a couple of years ago.”

Kate October 1, 2013 24 Comments
Gender

Brought to You by the Letter I: Why Intersex Politics Matters to LGBT Activism

“So, why are intersex issues being linked up with LGBT activism, and does this make sense? I’m here to argue, strongly, that yes – including intersex with LGBT and queer issues makes perfect sense. Let’s explore why, shall we?”

Claudia September 23, 2013 45 Comments
Coming Out Geekery

OPEN THREAD: Coming Out In The Sciences, Let’s Discuss!

Often, we feel we have to keep our science self and our queer self separate, but this is the perfect space to merge them. Let’s talk about coming out in the science fields!

Vivian September 20, 2013 92 Comments
Camp Gender

VIDEO: Meet The “Me & My Bois” Team and Hear About Their Big Plans For A-Camp

Lex & Megan (aka Emotions the P.O.E.T) are really excited about coming to A-Camp! Hear all about it in this kickass video.

Vanessa September 14, 2013 11 Comments
First Person Gender

The Army Taught Me That I Can Change My Body (And It Will Still Be Mine)

Here’s the deal: I both like and am my body. I am a girl, ergo I have a girl’s body. It’s neat. You know what I think helped me to be comfortable with my body more than anything else? The US Army.

Vivian July 29, 2013 23 Comments
Coming Out

AB Chao Is Gay: Mom and Design Blogger Extraordinaire Plays For Your Team, Has Cute Hair

Welcome to the club, AB Chao! Your membership card is in the mail (with the toaster).

Hansen July 26, 2013 22 Comments
Gender

Real-Life Sophia Bursets: Transgender Women Face a Nightmare in Men’s Prisons

“For trans* women who are locked up, getting access to medical care and safety from the guards and inmates is a serious problem. But the problem starts when they are put in prisons designed for men.”

Mey July 25, 2013 18 Comments
Gender

Panic! in the Locker Room: On Fighting for Trans* Youth with Words as Weapons

“I mostly ignored the emails, as anyone with an overflowing inbox does. But this subject line caught my eye: Boys in the girls locker room, legally? WTF?! Maybe now is a good time to mention that I identify and visibly present as genderqueer.”

Nicole July 4, 2013 24 Comments
First Person Gender Issues

The Incredibly True Story Of How Cissexism Made My Same-Sex Marriage Legal

Thanks to a simple governmental regulation, my wife and I were able to exploit a legal loophole and obtain a federally recognized marriage.

Elizabeth June 13, 2013 34 Comments
Gender

VIDEO: If You Love Women So Much, How Come You Don’t Dress Like One?

“There are two important things to keep in mind here: 1. I don’t dress like anybody but myself. 2. I love watermelon.”

Riese June 3, 2013 77 Comments
Gender

Lucy Meadows’ Coroner Says Press Deserves Shame for Her Death

The coroner on Lucy Meadows’ case says the press should be ashamed of the way it harassed and sensationalized trans woman Lucy Meadows in the months before her suicide.

Savannah May 29, 2013 7 Comments
First Person Gender Issues

Fifty Shades of White

Having the blessing – or curse – of lighter skin is a double edged sword. I never gave much thought to the idea that society needs positive cultural images of minorities until I came to embrace my Hispanic heritage and come out of the closet.

Elaine May 28, 2013 9 Comments
Gender

I’m Not A Gender Zombie and Neither Are You: Rejecting Anti-Trans Bigotry From Rachel Ivey and Deep Green Resistance

Word has quickly spread on the web in the last week or so that Rachel Ivey, a member of the Deep Green Resistance environmentalist movement that holds openly transphobic views as “core” principles, is putting together a speaking tour consisting of a few relatively high profile events in June and July.

Savannah May 20, 2013 181 Comments
First Person Gender Issues

Identity Theft: A Trans* Intersex Woman On Traumas and Surgery

“It’s unfortunate, unfair and illogical that intersex people get assigned a gender and a sex and are expected to either stick with them or fix someone else’s mistake with expensive, risky surgery on their genitals.”

A. S. May 16, 2013 41 Comments
First Person Gender Issues

I’m A Trans Woman And I’m Not Interested In Being One of the “Good Ones”

If you present in a traditionally feminine way, you’re just being a misogynistic parody of a woman, and if you fail to present in a traditionally feminine way, well ha! There’s the proof that you’re not really a woman right there.

Vivian May 15, 2013 316 Comments
Gender Health Issues

It’s Not Okay: Intimate Partner Violence in Radical Queer Spaces

“She acts like she’s such a victim when obviously there was abuse on both sides.” Awkwardly, I shrug my shoulders and look around the room. My partner doesn’t notice how uncomfortable she’s making me because she’s caught up in her own conjectures: “It’s like how we are sometimes.”

Emma May 8, 2013 24 Comments
Coming Out

Everybody Should Come Out, Or Not

Someone thinks Margaret Cho outed John Travolta, Fastrack thinks kids should come out, Ángeles Álvarez thinks lesbian politicians should come out, and now that Jason Collins is out, Andy West thinks everyone should come out.

Riese May 1, 2013 80 Comments
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