VIDEO: If You Love Women So Much, How Come You Don’t Dress Like One?

I don’t get this question, I get the inverse — “if you don’t like men, why do you date women who dress like men”? I don’t recall “dislikes clothing stored in the ‘men’s section’ of mainstream retail outlets” being a requirement to earn my Queer Lady Badge, but whatever, people are idiots. Thus I thoroughly enjoyed YouTube user hartbeat’s response to the question she gets all the time: “If you love women so much, how come you don’t you dress like one?”

http://youtu.be/ClDXLf_EAmM


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77 Comments

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      Word. I sort of love what…who was it, Chris Rock? had to say about that whole weird stereotype about “black people love watermelon!” Just, like, OF COURSE THEY DO, LOTS OF DIFFERENT PEOPLE DO, IT’S FUCKING DELICIOUS.

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      Totally agree about the WOC/Watermelon thing and I also was surprised of her choice of “outfit” …meaning a bikini is traditionally feminine and I know my butch partner would never – in one million years – don that watermelon bra. So cool that she did – kudos.

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      Yup, totally read that as “standing ovulation.” Not sure what that means, but I think it needs to be defined as “so awesome you immediately ovulate.”

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    I was having a crappy day. But then I saw this. Now today is definitely the best day I’ll have all week. Unless I watch this again every day this week… which let’s face it, I will.

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    I just got home at 4am UK time, still completely sober, and came on to AS… to find this. Best part of my day. (And I spent the day on the beach in the sun, which is rare in England, so that’s saying something.)

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    Heart this. So hard. I got this question recently from my mother, who means well, but it was cool to see a Mom who just got it without any questions asked.

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    Wow she’s a very big girl! Which is good like! She must have a lot of confidence to do that. I weight like 110 and not a hope could you catch me in a bikini!
    Hopefully she doesn’t care about the haters who say she’s too big!
    😀

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      Totally not trying to bring down the tone of this article or attack your comment (because it was a very positive one); but I just feel the need to say that I certainly would not classify her as “very big”, so I was a bit confused to see you do that?
      She just looks like a regular sized woman to me.

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        no i just meant shes big compared to me! I have a skinny body which i hate! Didnt mean she shouldnt be in a bikini its just many ppl can be mean and ive no self confidence and i’m so glad she does!

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    OMG. Read all the comments. Still was totally not expecting anything remotely like that to happen. Thank you, queer internet, for being wonderfully weird.

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      Can’t log in to +1 you because silly cookies, but yes. This. Sometimes queer internet is just the best place!

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    What Ami is saying is that we can’t conflate “regular” with “skinny”, because saying that being fat or obese or overweight or big is not equal to being called “regular” is a reflection of the broken social system we live in where people’s bodies are policed and evaluated.

    And yeah, it is a funny video, but Hart is making a specific point with this funny video that people are too quick to police how others look or should look, so I think it’s totally valid to talk about body issues and expectations because it is perfectly within the context of this video.

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    Awesome, love the ‘Quick question for you, why is one of the watermelons bigger than the other…. mmm okay….’ *walk away…

    Couldn’t be more glad that I logged in today 😀

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    So so great. LOVE the transition from eating watermelon in silence to the music and dancing and watermelon bikini AHHHHH 😀

    Now an amazing response to the question “if you don’t like men, why do you date women who dress like men?” is needed!

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    Wth?? LMAO oh my face is hurting from laughing so much..I’ll never look at a watermelon the same way again!!

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    I’ve never gotten that question, only the reverse “If you like girls, why do you date people who dress like boys?” which is only half-true in terms of my dating history (of dating butches v. femmes) but whatever.
    But can we just acknowledge that two of the most amazing queers on Youtube are named Hart? Coincidence?
    DESTINY?

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    THANKYOUTHANKYOUTHANKYOU! This video is amazing… the way ‘gender’ is ascribed to items of clothing is so warped – magical moments of youtube awesomeness, like this one, make me smile.

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