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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

Sep 8, 2025

FIRST PERSON

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

FIRST PERSON

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

PARENTING & FAMILY

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

first person

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

first person

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

parenting & family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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Is It Crazy To Ask My Brother To Change His Daughter’s Name For Me?

Everybody in your family knew you were gonna name your kid after your Mom — but your brother beat you to it. What now? Also, a lesbian cat lover struggles…

the team

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Jun 7, 2024

43 across, three letters. ___ Culturistas (Matt Rogers and Bowen Yang podcast)

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AF+ Crossword Wishes Everyone a Happy June

AF+ Crossword also recommends packing lots of sunscreen and staying hydrated.

Rebecca Goldstein

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Jun 1, 2024

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My Girlfriend Has Been Lying to Me for Months About The Weirdest Thing

You don’t care if she graduated college or not, but either way she’s been lying about it to everyone! Plus advice on dealing with a couple’s fight when they’re also…

the team

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May 31, 2024

15 across / 9 letters / Pride Event whose first occurence in D.C. was organized by the Lesbian Avengers

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AF+ Crossword Is Gay in the Sheets and Gay in the Streets

And really, what else were you expecting?

Rebecca Goldstein

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May 25, 2024

a white pair of brief style underwear stands out against a background of red sheets. a dark black spot stands out in the gusset of the underwear

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My Girlfriend Loves Period Sex and I Hate It

Advice for a person who really wants to get over being grossed out by periods, plus advice about friendship from three different askers.

the team

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May 24, 2024

two queer people of color wearing tank tops embrace on a bed, one clearly topping the other, both smiling, the bottom broadly and the top softly. the image is red.

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Days of Organizing, Nights of Bratting: A Femme Queer Spanks, Straps, Gets Toppy and Waxed

A writer reflects on accessing desire in trying times and the romance of collective liberation — playdates that range from toppy to bratty, a bottom with endearing nonverbal cues, a…

Guest

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May 23, 2024

a specimen jar of sperm floats over a blue background where two women sit uncomfortably

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I’m Scared About My Wife Using Her Ex-Boyfriend as Our Sperm Donor

Sperm is expensive and you don’t know many “good” men — but you do know one…your wife’s ex. Plus advice on discussing money and mis-matched incomes with friends.

the team

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May 21, 2024