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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

Sep 8, 2025

FIRST PERSON

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

FIRST PERSON

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

PARENTING & FAMILY

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

first person

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

first person

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

parenting & family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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Newly Sober Girlfriend Is Harshing My Mellow

You’ve compromised for her, but she still judges you for smoking weed. Also, is this out-of-state queer wedding worth the PTO?

the team

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Feb 28, 2025

One image shows someone walking down a city street in an expensive looking outfit, another image shows a hand going into a purse.

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My Girlfriend Has Money to Spare, So Can I Ask for a Loan?

She knows you can’t afford the thing you need, but hasn’t even offered to help?! Also, we settle a debate about bookshelves!

the team

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Feb 21, 2025

One image shows people's legs and feet gathered in a semicircle at a party. The other shows someone alone in a dimly lit bathtub.

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Why Am I the Only Friend Not Invited to the Wedding?

Do you think the invite got lost in the mail?? Also we help a reader who’s stunned by a sudden friend breakup.

the team

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Feb 14, 2025

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Will She Dump Me If I Don’t Wanna Join Her Wellness Journey?

Is it OK to tell your girlfriend you’d simply rather watch TV than exercise with her? Also, what to do when texting people back feels like homework!

the team

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Feb 7, 2025

Public health nurse Dora Rust-D'Eye teaches special prenatal class for single mothers. One in every 11 babies born to single mom.

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The Best Laid Birth Plans

Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it — and if there’s anything I can say about our little Prenatal Birth & Labor class, it is…

Riese

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Feb 5, 2025

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Why Won’t My Gay Coworker Hang Out With Me and My Gay Friends?

Why does your queer coworker not want to hang out with you?? Also, a reader is given a Sophie’s choice between their husband or their would-be paramour.

the team

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Jan 31, 2025

One picture shows someone looking at their reflection and the other shows someone scrolling on their phone

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I Don’t Think I’m Hot Enough Anymore To Date on the Apps

You’re newly single and worried your face card has expired on these dating apps. Also, we help a reader not text their ex!

the team

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Jan 24, 2025

queer pregnancy

Fixing the Window

“If I’d made it this far into the pregnancy without being forced to face the reality that has inspired many of my generation to forego reproduction altogether, I could do…

Riese

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Jan 22, 2025