Sure, maybe some nights you’ll encounter a confident queer who makes a beeline for you and starts chatting, but you know how you can guarantee a confident queer is in the room chatting to new people? Be The Confident Queer You Want To See At The Bar!

I’m black and masculine so I’m worried that if I tried to make a move it would come off too strong, which I know I really shouldn’t but we live in a world.

You’re wondering if you should admit your feelings to her, but you’re not sure if she’s queer or not. Let’s look practically at all the options.

As a culture, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the ways that dating can suck; it becomes easy to forget how fun it can actually be!

We live in a world that doesn’t value people of color or women over thirty, so I understand why you feel like this. But you are lovable.

“How do I get myself to understand what love can really be, after the initial sparks fade?”

Dating has often felt like a game I don’t know how to play. “An elaborate puzzle,” as you say. One where the pieces are sharp as knives that cut to the core of my deepest insecurities.

As scary as this sounds, in order to date, you’re probably going to have to actually ask people out.

I think that this probably happens to people a lot more than you’d think.

As someone who’s dealt with substance issues, my friends and my therapist told me to cut and run, so I did. And now I regret it.