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Dating Pets & Animals

You Need Help: Wanting To Move In Together but Unsure About Sharing Bed With Dog

“My girlfriend has a super sweet lab mix who I love dearly, but I’m very new to the concept of sleeping with a dog in the bed. I thought they made dog beds for this exact reason?!”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya December 19, 2023 7 Comments
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Dating Holigays

10 Budget Friendly Holigay Dates

We can’t all vacation to a ski chalet to drink hot cocoa and enter their gingerbread house contest for a weekend! Here are some cheaper alternatives to capture some romantic holiday magic.

Em Win December 13, 2023 3 Comments
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Dating

A Trans Guy’s Guide to Grindr

You don’t have to preemptively feel shame about your body parts. Do you know how many cis gay men hate their bodies? Why do you think Equinox exists?

Gabe Dunn December 6, 2023 30 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: Am I Invisible to Other LGBTQIA People?

There isn’t a secret formula for attracting others, but confidence does go a long way.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya November 21, 2023 2 Comments
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Dating

I’ve Been Non-Monogamous for Eight Years — These Are My Mistakes and Lessons for Happier Loving

My experience of love has been marked by learning, mistakes, and lost relationships.

Summer Tao November 16, 2023
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Dating

You Need Help: Dating Makes Me Sad

The best thing you can do for your dating life right now is to actually take a break from dating.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya November 14, 2023 10 Comments
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Dating

How To Send Your Best Post-Date Text

“There is one post-date texting practice the team universally despises.”

Nico November 11, 2023 6 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: How Can I Date When I’m So Scared To?

Dating requires so much vulnerability, and a fear of rejection can be such a roadblock. So, what can we do to confront that roadblock?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 24, 2023 5 Comments
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Comedy Dating

Lesbian Date Ideas Inspired By Stock Images

Out of hot queer date ideas? I’ve got you covered.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 28, 2023 13 Comments
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Comedy Dating

All the Chaotic Gay Questions I’ve Asked on a First Date

“Do you have color-changing LED light bulbs and/or light strips?”

Em Win September 22, 2023 2 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: How Can I Help With Someone Else’s Fear of Dating?

Sometimes, people get on dating apps before they’re really ready to date.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 19, 2023 5 Comments
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Dating

Going With the Flow: Red Flag or Hottest Quality?

Please just say how you feel!!!!

Em Win August 22, 2023 7 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: I’m Afraid of Feeling Like Less of a Trans Man for Not Dating Men

Cool people who will appreciate you as a whole person exist, and I believe you can find them.

Nico August 8, 2023 18 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: When Is the Right Time To Talk About Being Exclusive in a Relationship?

And do I have to have the conversation in person when we’re long distance?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 1, 2023 2 Comments
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Dating

Eight Things I’ve Learned While Dating at 28

I could not have taken on the past year of dating without my best friends.

Em Win July 12, 2023 9 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.

himani July 4, 2023 7 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: How Do I Convince My Girlfriend That I Care?

It sounds like she’s looking for something you just can’t give her, and that’s okay. Your life is very full at the moment. It’s not too full for the right relationship, but it may be too full for THIS relationship.

Darcy June 13, 2023 6 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: I’m Uncertain About Wanting Kids, So Should I Only Date People Who Are Uncertain Too?

I’ve changed my mind about wanting kids throughout life, and that’s okay.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya June 6, 2023 9 Comments
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Coming Out Dating

You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?

Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your life — one where you are less dependent on your parents, and have the space to fully be yourself.

Darcy April 25, 2023 2 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: My Partner Won’t Say “I Love You”

Is it silly to be hung up on this?

Drew Burnett Gregory April 18, 2023 14 Comments
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