“I’ve been out and queer for a long time now, and I get quite a bit of attention from people. I have a lot of self-confidence and if I’m into somebody, I’m not afraid to make a move. My problem, though, is that I’m just never into anybody.”
“As a trans woman, lesbian is about how I understand my gender as completely separate from men. I don’t ascribe my gender to perform for men. It gives me space to say that my attraction and my identity exists outside the bounds of what a man finds desirable.”
You bonded over a lesbian identity but now she’s exploring bisexuality, and you’re poly and you really don’t want a cis man in the mix. Plus advice for transitioning from LDR to IRL LIVING 2GETHER.
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“I have strong sexual feelings for another good friend of mine. They have a partner already and are poly.”
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She grabbed my hand and smashed a tomato with her homemade caesar dressing into my palm.
“For years I’ve been wishing I could meet someone organically, off the apps, and now that that’s happened I have no idea what I’m doing!”
I love cuddle dates because they’re my neurodivergent heaven: comfy and quiet. They also fit into anti-heteronormative approaches to romance and affection.
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“I’m not sure that people who’ve spent most of their lives in relationships receive this same type of ‘Why?'”
“How do I somehow give off that I’m girlfriend material? I just want to be wanted back for a change.”
10. I’m a bit ashamed of this, but it’s the honest truth. I could never be with a Swiftie hater. At best, I can deal with indifference.
9. Got rejected because I didn’t pay enough attention to someone’s dog
8. Got rejected because I paid too much attention to someone’s dog
“I feel guilty about being so confused and not being able to decide if I like her or not. I’m worried that I’m leading her on.”
Approach cultivating a friendship with yourself as you would with other people.
“I have a crush on a lesbian couple I know, and I want to test the waters to see if they might be interested in dating, but I don’t want to make it weird if they’re monogamous.”
I now have three years of recovery and a wonderful girlfriend by my side. I think I’m ready to talk about ways we can support our partners who have eating disorders.