‘Can Trans Men Be Butches?’
And what makes a butch, butch?
And what makes a butch, butch?
Wanting to change your name now after people have adjusted will not make you a burden.
“I always thought, if I weren’t a trans man, I’d be a butch lesbian.”
Like many trans people in recent weeks, I’ve found myself buried in government paperwork and waiting in lines at various agencies.
As much as my transition is a deeply personal journey, the external pressures and political environment complicate this process in ways I never anticipated.
Gender exploration is for everyone, regardless of starting point or expectations.
“We have the feel, we have all these trans women working in this beautiful space, but it’s also technical. We’re not just smoke and mirrors, we’re not just branding. There’s something behind this.”
It might seem ridiculous to you, reader, to hear a man compare queer kink to biological fatherhood, but I’m trepidatiously taking the stand in defense of duality.
Hollywood’s transphobia is no match for the shot of adrenaline that is finally being out to yourself and the world.
Every time I have gotten the opportunity to do mediocre drag as a beginner, I have had some of the most fun a person can have.
1. When targeted ads began spooning wedding crap onto my feed.
I stand with the grief of maps and the ways I bittersweetly still carry the places I left.
“If you were to ask me my gender, I’d say ‘lesbian.’ The problem is people in my life will not stop asking me if I’m nonbinary or trans. Everyone keeps asking if I have new pronouns.”
This year marks my fourth year of being a feminine catastrophe. Except my paperwork still claims that I’m some f*cking guy.
People often understand being non-binary as a mix of feminine and masculine characteristics. That’s a start, but it doesn’t do justice to non-binary diversity.
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
I came across the concept of the “designated son” on TikTok.
Realistically, I understand that if you do something for 11 months, the chance that you’ll feel good for every second of those 11 months is zero.
It can be helpful to see a transition as smaller, interlocked transitions.
8. Being slutty in tank tops and vests