What Can a Nonbinary Transition Look Like?
People often understand being non-binary as a mix of feminine and masculine characteristics. That’s a start, but it doesn’t do justice to non-binary diversity.
You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife
Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer — her own feelings did that.
Untethered: The Designated Girl-Son
I came across the concept of the “designated son” on TikTok.
Transition Is Allowed To Feel Bad Sometimes
Realistically, I understand that if you do something for 11 months, the chance that you’ll feel good for every second of those 11 months is zero.
How To Support Your Transitioning Partners and Friends
It can be helpful to see a transition as smaller, interlocked transitions.
Top 10 Things I’m Looking Forward to After Top Surgery
8. Being slutty in tank tops and vests
You Need Help: As a Transmasc, Am I Welcome in Lesbian Spaces?
You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest, community, and so much more.
A Trans Guy’s Guide to the Men’s Bathroom
2) Men do not lock the door.
In Genderqueer, a Word To Call Home
It conveys a sense of expansiveness that I’ve felt about my gender since before I had the words to identify it; a joyful space of experimentation and potential.
You Need Help: I Feel Disconnected From Gender As a Concept
“Identifying as a woman doesn’t feel right, but affirmatively identifying as ‘not a woman’ also doesn’t feel right.”
Can You Feel the Kenergy?
There’s a specific kind of trans masc quality to the way that Ken dresses and takes up space if I’m being honest. That’s the siren call, the Kenergy,
You Need Help: How Do I Navigate Misgendering as a Nonbinary Femme?
Your work is not to make yourself more palatable to those who might misunderstand you. Your work is to be your glorious full self, too complex to be pigeonholed by any other person on this earth. And if your friends can’t respect you? They’re not your people.
Data Party! Insights into Nonbinary Readers from the 2022 Reader Survey
Autostraddle-exclusive insights into our nonbinary readers!
Getting Strong: A Conversation Between Two Nonbinary Humans About Weight Lifting
“When I say getting strong rules, I don’t have any number or definition in mind when I say that. It’s cool for people, as INDIVIDUALS, to feel like they’re strong and capable and I encourage that whether you’re bench pressing 45 pounds or 445.”
You Need Help: I’m 13 — How Do I Explore My Butch Identity?
Sometimes when you’re exploring a new aspect of your identity, you might feel like you have to emulate something specific. But there’s no one way to be butch. Go out there and live your best butch life!
To the Trans Kids Reading This – Keep Glowing
You are eons beyond what they will ever imagine being possible. You are glorious, abundant, light personified.
The Evolution of Unclockable Transgender Tuck Kits
Looking back, I wish a company like Unclockable existed when I was starting my transfeminine journey through gender.
You Need Help: I’m a Trans Woman Looking For Affirming Lesbian Content
The point is this: it sucks that we still have to struggle with inclusion in lesbian community, your feelings are valid, and I hope you’ll be OK whether or not you can find enough trans lesbian-specific content online. Now, with all of that bluster out of the way, here are some recommendations.
The Films That Helped Me Feel At Home In My Agender Experience
Being agender is something like the impossible made possible, as rare and unexpected as accidentally landing in the spirit realm, or happening upon mermaids in Poland.
The Catch-22 of Being a Trans Woman Athlete
A trans woman athlete’s thoughts on having her identity under public attack while feeling neglected by her community.