You see, for me and you, dating women wasn’t the only thing that made us lesbians or gay. It’s an entire culture with a rich history of tradition, identity, protest, community, and so much more.
2) Men do not lock the door.
It conveys a sense of expansiveness that I’ve felt about my gender since before I had the words to identify it; a joyful space of experimentation and potential.
“Identifying as a woman doesn’t feel right, but affirmatively identifying as ‘not a woman’ also doesn’t feel right.”
There’s a specific kind of trans masc quality to the way that Ken dresses and takes up space if I’m being honest. That’s the siren call, the Kenergy,
Your work is not to make yourself more palatable to those who might misunderstand you. Your work is to be your glorious full self, too complex to be pigeonholed by any other person on this earth. And if your friends can’t respect you? They’re not your people.
Autostraddle-exclusive insights into our nonbinary readers!
“When I say getting strong rules, I don’t have any number or definition in mind when I say that. It’s cool for people, as INDIVIDUALS, to feel like they’re strong and capable and I encourage that whether you’re bench pressing 45 pounds or 445.”
Sometimes when you’re exploring a new aspect of your identity, you might feel like you have to emulate something specific. But there’s no one way to be butch. Go out there and live your best butch life!
You are eons beyond what they will ever imagine being possible. You are glorious, abundant, light personified.
Looking back, I wish a company like Unclockable existed when I was starting my transfeminine journey through gender.
The point is this: it sucks that we still have to struggle with inclusion in lesbian community, your feelings are valid, and I hope you’ll be OK whether or not you can find enough trans lesbian-specific content online. Now, with all of that bluster out of the way, here are some recommendations.
Being agender is something like the impossible made possible, as rare and unexpected as accidentally landing in the spirit realm, or happening upon mermaids in Poland.
A trans woman athlete’s thoughts on having her identity under public attack while feeling neglected by her community.
I am almost running to keep up with the nurse and make sure I am hearing every word she says. When we get to the room, I look at the patient and see… me.
After gender-affirming surgery, many trans people experience post-operative depression. Awareness and the knowledge that you aren’t alone can help.
Less than a year after giving birth, I decided to medically transition. I wish I’d done it sooner.
Visibility can be a trap in many ways because we never got to set the terms by which we are viewed.
The backlash that ensued after a trans-inclusive education manual was released demonstrated that post-independence India still reckons with the legacy of British colonialism.
I wasn’t a woman, but a lesbian, an identity so powerful it’s the closest thing to a gender I have.