Hold Up, Can My Friend Date My Ex?
She broke your heart and now she’s dating your friend and everyone says it’s 100% legal, like what the fuck. Also, we help a reader gently set some misophonia boundaries with a loud eater!
12 Queers on Where We Fall on the Polyamory/Monogamy Scale
Monogamy and polyamory exist on a spectrum and often aren’t fixed black-and-white categories.
Queer Love Knows No Borders but Tell That to the U.S. Government
Whether leaving the U.S. or trying to get back, terrified or resigned, every queer person I spoke to in an international long distance relationship says they feel less at ease to travel.
How To Make Sending Nudes Your Love Language
My dual-citizenship as a rampant slut who loves sending nudes and a sex worker deeply concerned with safety makes me oddly well-positioned to talk about it. Here are some crucial hows and ifs of sending nudes as one of your love languages.
She Won’t Date Me Because I Cheated on Someone Years Ago — Ok Miss Perfect!
She dumped you after finding out you cheated on a past girlfriend! Also, how can you interact with straight women without seeming like a man-hating lesbian?
‘My Crush Has a Boyfriend. How Do I Get Over Her and Stop Hating Him?’
Even though it doesn’t feel like it, these feelings will pass. What’s meant for you will come to you. In the meantime, dance/cry/sweat/scream it out.
I Forgive Myself for My Past Situationships and I’ma Keep Having Them
I’ve known for a long time that my mom’s lack of emotional availability was a setup for my romantic relationships.
‘Is It a Good Idea To Date a Girl With Internalized Homophobia?’
“She said that we couldn’t date properly because we were both girls because of our religion.”
‘I Just Realized I’m Bi and Am Extremely Anxious’
I’ve flirted with women at bars, online, and have even had a few steamy make-out sessions, but I’m extremely anxious about taking it any further.
‘I Want To Sext a Stranger for Self-Discovery’
“Last year, in my 30s, I started a self-discovery process that has included getting on dating apps after not dating since I was a teenager.”
‘How Can I Talk to My Friend/Crush About Sexual Compatibility Without Being Weird?’
Does it make sense to suggest talking about how we feel about kissing/ cuddling/ sex-related stuff/etc.? And if so, what’s the best way to go about it respectfully and in an ace-affirming way?
14 Queer People Share Their Favorite Dating Apps and Sites of All Time
For pretty much as long as the internet has existed, queers have used it to find each other. We were online dating before it was the norm.
‘My Girlfriend Thinks About Her Ex More Than She Thinks About Me’
My girlfriend will say things like “I know you hate Halloween” but here’s the thing: I feel fine about Halloween. It’s her ex who hates Halloween.
11 Queer People Share How They Flirt
“Did Shakespeare teach me how to flirt? MAYBE SO.”
‘The Girl I’m Vibing With Thinks I’m Still Into My Ex’
Queer relationships often don’t take the shape or trajectory of cis-heterosexual ones.
‘I Want a T4T Relationship but Worry About Chaser Behavior’
So, shame about sexuality. Lots of us have some. Some of us have lots.
‘I Can’t Tell if My Coworker Is Flirting With Me but I Kind of Hope She Is’
“At work, we already have a bunch of inside jokes, and we find excuses to hang out during the day between meetings and spend so much of our time messaging each other even when we’re sitting literally a few seats down from each other.”
‘I Haven’t Felt a Spark With Anyone Since My Ex’
“is it leading someone on to keep repeatedly seeing them and going on dates if I’m unsure about them?”
‘How Do I Date When I’m Attracted to Hardly Anyone?’
“I’ve been out and queer for a long time now, and I get quite a bit of attention from people. I have a lot of self-confidence and if I’m into somebody, I’m not afraid to make a move. My problem, though, is that I’m just never into anybody.”
The Many Ways Trans Women Find Sapphic Love
“As a trans woman, lesbian is about how I understand my gender as completely separate from men. I don’t ascribe my gender to perform for men. It gives me space to say that my attraction and my identity exists outside the bounds of what a man finds desirable.”