‘I’ve Dated Men for Three Decades. Is it Too Late To Start Dating Women?’
“I am a 50 year old woman who has exclusively dated men for the last 30 years. I dated a girl in highschool but it was a different (and very homophobic) time.”
A Queer Guide to Cuffing Season
I used to chase warmth in ways that weren’t always safe for me — staying too long, giving too much, confusing chaos for chemistry. These days, warmth means choosing softness without abandoning myself.
My Girlfriend’s Ex Sent Me a Warning Message. Should I Hear Her Out?
Your new girlfriend’s ex has tracked you down and has some things to tell you! Also, how to stay COVID-safe while getting more involved in queer kink communities.
Was I A Fool To Think They’d Kiss Me Back?
You made the first move and have felt weird about it ever since. Also — needing tips on dating in your mid-30s, ’cause it’s not going well so far.
‘Am I Being Breadcrumbed Into a Situationship?’
With the boom of online dating, many young adults are finding themselves in situationships.
Help I Have a Crush On My Ex-Boyfriend’s Sister
Should you make a move on an ex-boyfriend’s sister who may or may not be your root? Also — tips on sexting A WRITER.
50 Gay Questions To Ask on a First Date
A collection of 50+ gay first date question prompts to get the conversation flowing.
‘I’ve Been Out of the Sex/Dating Scene and I Feel Fine About It? I Think?’
It’s like I’m sexually active in theory but not in practice.
I’m 34 and Want Kids. Is It Ethical To Eliminate Older Women From My Dating Pool?
What’s the best way to approach dating when you’re looking to co-parent? And is “looking for younger women” one of those ways?
‘I Went on a Not-Quite-Date With a Woman in a Relationship and Now I’m Down Bad’
“Do I tell this person how I feel because I don’t find genuine emotional connections/attraction like this very often?”
‘My Date Was Turned Off by the Idea of Being My First Girlfriend’
“She said she doesn’t want to be anybody’s first-ever girlfriend because she’s looking for something serious/longterm and doesn’t want to waste her time because ‘nobody ever settles down with their first girlfriend’?? But I am ALSO looking to settle down!”
‘I’m a Trans Guy Looking for a Co-Parent. Are Queer Arranged Marriages a Thing?’
“I feel like in some ways, I could be down for a marriage in the sense of contract-to-build-a-family-unit rather than the marriage-driven-by-romantic-love sense.”
Will Everyone Always Seem Second-Best to My Ex?
They checked every box, but now it’s over and nothing else seems to come close. Will it always be this way? Also, we help a reader decide if she should shave her bush just because someone asked her to.
I’m Moving In With My Ex-Situationship (Wait, There’s More)
She’s dating your bestie, still flirts with you, and you’re all three moving in together?! Also, a reader wonders if she’s really a lesbian if all of her exes came out as trans men.
‘I’m a Thirty-Something Lesbian Worried I’ll Be Single Forever’
“And I’m a total catch! I have a great job, I own my house, I’m smart, cute, and don’t speak to any of my exes!”
My Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust Me to Party at Pride This Year
You cheated on your boyfriend and now he’s asking you to stay home from Pride parties — is that fair? Also, how to navigate different types of political activism.
Hold Up, Can My Friend Date My Ex?
She broke your heart and now she’s dating your friend and everyone says it’s 100% legal, like what the fuck. Also, we help a reader gently set some misophonia boundaries with a loud eater!
12 Queers on Where We Fall on the Polyamory/Monogamy Scale
Monogamy and polyamory exist on a spectrum and often aren’t fixed black-and-white categories.
Please Stop Telling My Older Girlfriend Not to Date Me
How to cope when social commentary has your older girlfriend wondering if she’s a pervert for dating you. Plus, what if your brother’s line in the sand is not yours?
Queer Love Knows No Borders but Tell That to the U.S. Government
Whether leaving the U.S. or trying to get back, terrified or resigned, every queer person I spoke to in an international long distance relationship says they feel less at ease to travel.