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Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Let’s Get Real: A Tarot Spread & Reading for When You’re Ready to Stop Avoiding Self-Awareness

While it might feel terrifying to dig into our own secrets with so many other things to worry about, this is a season for patient exploration, for deep introspection. What have you been hiding from? Where have you been longing for freedom, and what has been holding you back?

meg October 1, 2020 5 Comments
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Lesbian Sex

Let’s Talk About (Queer) Sex: Power Dynamics Are in the Eye of the Beholder

What do we feel our sexual IDs “mean” about us as “people”? Do they have overlaps with our sense of self outside of bed? Do we notice others assuming these things about us (or projecting them onto us)? If so, is that annoying or helpful? Do they get at authentic ways that our sexual dynamics are natural expressions of other parts of our personhood?

the team October 1, 2020 10 Comments
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Politics + Activism

A Note From Your Editors On The Very Unchill 2020 Presidential Election

Like many of you, we’ve been engaged in more than a few heated discussions about what is at stake in the upcoming 2020 presidential election. We wanted to share the messy, complex thoughts and feelings that Kamala Puligandla, Editor In Chief, and Carmen Phillips, Deputy Editor, have been wrestling with, as we close in on this election.

Kamala Puligandla October 1, 2020 10 Comments
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Movie Lists TV Lists

What’s New to Stream in October 2020

Everything streaming with queer women and trans characters in October, including hot women in space and a docuseries starring all your favorites.

Riese October 1, 2020 10 Comments
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Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Queer Horoscopes for October 2020: What Was Planted in March That You’re Sowing Now?

Six months into the global pandemic, Libra energy is here to help us find balance in an unbalanced world.

Corina Dross October 1, 2020 6 Comments
Politics + Activism

The First 2020 Presidential Debate: Where Can We Go From Here?

“You can’t fundamentally change who this president is. He is a bully and an abuser. He is an unrepentant white supremacist. He lacks even a modicum of basic human decency.”

Natalie September 30, 2020 10 Comments
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AF+

The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 72, September 2020

I did make out with my ex in the house here and there but the family was French and basically encouraged it and gave me wine every night.

Kamala Puligandla September 30, 2020 16 Comments
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Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: Gillian Anderson as Margaret Thatcher Is Even More Upsetting Than We Imagined!

Netflix’s Social Distance actually looks pretty good, Cynthia Nixon on that “sexy oyster-eating” scene, Duck Tales’ Penumbra is a lesbian, and let’s all agree to watch One Day at a Time on CBS!

Heather Hogan September 30, 2020 4 Comments
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House & Garden

What Is Cottagecore and Why Do Young Queer People Love It?

The cottagecore aesthetic is marked by flowy skirts, ceramic toad figurines and bucolic scenery. It’s a denial of hustle culture and a fetishization of coziness that became a hashtag, a lifestyle and, most notably, an escape.

Ro White September 30, 2020 16 Comments
In a two-panel drawn comic, Dickens and a friend sit together on a couch against a green background. The friend asks Dickens, "Can I ask you a highly personal question? Do you consider yourself gay? lesbian? queer?" In response, Dickens jokes "Oh, Thank Helena" in reference to the TV show Warehouse 13.
Webcomics

Foolish Child #81: Labels

“I don’t know. I can’t keep up with all the rules and definitions and the gatekeep-iness.”

Dickens September 30, 2020 2 Comments
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Sex Toys

Ten Maximalist Sex Toys to Add to Your (Toy) Box

Looking for big, bright, maximalist sex toys? You’ve come to the right place.

Ryan Yates September 30, 2020 5 Comments
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Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

No Filter: Kate Moennig Is Staggeringly Gay

Janelle Monáe in bumblebee cosplay, Sarah Paulson flips her wig (literally), and a video Niecy Nash dancing in a bodysuit that you’ve got to see for yourself.

Christina Tucker September 30, 2020 4 Comments
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First Person Lesbian Sex

14 Knuckles: Always A Fistee, Never A Fister

My acceptance of my own pain allows me to have the kind of sex that is rooted in the specificity of my body. I don’t love the idea that I’ll never fist, but I do love the idea that every act of sex I engage with is collaborative. Queerness reminds me that there is no standard way to fuck or live.

Mat September 30, 2020 9 Comments
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Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Get in, Witches! “The Craft” Sequel Trailer Is Here

Listen, it’s my belief that all witches are gay and that’s just a fact. “The Craft” witches are DEFINITELY all gay, if only because they inspired 25 years worth of gay girls! (Also: meet the lesbian who’s a closeted Trump voter, inside the movement to stop paying student loans, and why queer people get so many migraines.)

Carmen Phillips September 29, 2020 10 Comments
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TV Reviews

“Perry Mason” Has Lesbians, Tatiana Maslany, and Way Too Many Boring Men

I guess what I’m learning about myself is that I’m not quite cut out for these slow-moving, period piece crime dramas. I like my crime shows to be procedural — if there are eight episodes, I want eight crimes. And I like my women front and center, thank you very much.

Valerie Anne September 29, 2020 7 Comments
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Movie Reviews

Yes, “Loving Annabelle” Is Problematic — But it Was a Vital Film in My Own Queer Journey

There’s a reason forbidden romances like this spoke to me as a closeted person!

Valerie Anne September 29, 2020 17 Comments
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First Person Gender

When Other People Get to Give Away Their Binders

Getting top surgery with my butch identity is no longer some unattainable fantasy. Now the question firmly rests with me: do I want to go ahead with it or not?

Shoshana Raphael September 29, 2020 28 Comments
Dating

You Need Help: Why Do I Keep Crushing on Straight White Guys?

The dynamic between white men and Asian partners is uncomfortable. There’s always a worry that they’re interested in what you represent, not who you are.

KaeLyn September 29, 2020 7 Comments
LGBT Book Reviews

Leigh Finke’s “Queerfully and Wonderfully Made” Answers Crucial Questions for LGBTQ+ Christian Youth

“I wish I had these books when I was 15. I needed permission. I needed somebody to tell me, ‘You’re ok.’ If I had had one place to go, one book in my hand, known one person, I could have avoided a lot of trouble.”

Adrian September 29, 2020 6 Comments
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Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: Here’s Your First Look at Javicia Leslie in the Batwoman Suit

A new lesbian comedy from a Harley Quinn writer, Amber Ruffin stans Mary J. Blige in her first late night monologue, Ellen DeGeneres’ many chances, and Pretty Little Liars: Original Sin is a go.

Heather Hogan September 28, 2020 3 Comments
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