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Relationships

#PolyamoryProblems: How to Deal With a Closeted Partner

Feeling made invisible by your own partner’s choices to not come out as both queer and polyamorous is tough. This edition of #PolyamoryProblems dives into how to deal with a partner who is living in a double closet.

DaemonumX January 4, 2021 24 Comments
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Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: Meet the “Many Queer Characters” of the Gossip Girl Reboot

Dungeons, Dragons, and Diversity; Black cartoon from our childhoods that were ahead of their time; Pose in the pandemic; bisexual Cheetah discourse; and more!

Heather Hogan January 4, 2021 5 Comments
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Book Features

Getting to an Imperfect, Queer Center: Interview with Marlee Grace

“The goal, especially in 2020, has not been to feel better or feel my best, but it’s to feel less shitty than I did five minutes ago.” Marlee Grace’s Getting to Center is the tender, lesbian self-help book to start this year off right. We interview her about the book, internet addiction, higher powers, and the moon’s creative potential.

Sarah Yanni January 4, 2021 5 Comments
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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Will See You On Pandemic Tinder

Consider this: Serial monogamy should be more of a red flag than gaps in your dating history. Also, pandemic Tinder is good, there’s now an app for large online orgies, why not try talking to yourself in third person? And more.

Ryan Yates January 3, 2021 2 Comments
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TV Show Recaps

“RuPaul’s Drag Race” Episode 1301 Recap: Racers Start Your Engines

“Full disclosure, Symone is who I’m rooting for most because Capricorns have traditionally done sort of poorly on Drag Race and I cannot stand for that.”

Drew Burnett Gregory January 2, 2021 20 Comments
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Baopu #81: The Ache Has No Name

However distant and isolated we feel, we remind each other to remember to breathe.

Yao Xiao January 2, 2021 2 Comments
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January 2021: What’s New and Gay To Stream

What’s new and queer this month on streaming networks? We’ve got a new season of Dickinson, a Fran Lebowitz special, Anna Pacquin as a hot bisexual mess in Flack, Root and Shaw, a movie called “So My Grandma’s a Lesbian!” and so much more!

Riese January 1, 2021 17 Comments
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The Comment Awards Are Saying Good F*cking Riddance to 2020

“If I’m ever single again, my dating profile will definitely say Gob4Gob.”

Darcy January 1, 2021 6 Comments
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Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Queer Horoscopes for January 2021: How Will Your Sign Move Through Crisis and Remap Your World?

2020 is dead! Congratulations on outliving it! 2021 is asking us to take our broken hearts and remap our world.

Corina Dross January 1, 2021 4 Comments
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Tell Me Something Good Please I’m Begging You: A 2020 Roundtable

The Autostraddle team racked our brains and came up with our personal 2020 highlights. This year, even the smallest wins count.

the team December 31, 2020 28 Comments
Straddleverse

25 Most-Read Autostraddle Posts of 2020

From lists of streaming TV shows to lists of streaming movies, these are the most popular posts of 2020!

Riese December 31, 2020 5 Comments
Gender Politics + Activism

A Year of Intersex Victories

2020 wasn’t quite a victory for many people. But the intersex community has much to celebrate.

Mari Wrobi December 31, 2020 5 Comments
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Gender Politics + Activism

Scenes from a Gender 03: Trans Resilience Throughout 2020

In a year of incredible trials, the trans community has continued to build the connection and interdependence necessary to thrive and usher in a better world.

Bishakh Som December 31, 2020 10 Comments
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AF+

The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 75, December 2020

“Rachel — just a heads up that you are at the top of my list of bisexuals most likely to have cut their own hair with a sword.”

Carmen Phillips December 31, 2020 10 Comments
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Holigays

Grounding Ourselves for 2021: A NYE Round Table & Open Thread

In a chaotic world, how will you show up for yourself and provide yourself with the consistency you need in the new year and beyond?

Vanessa December 31, 2020 5 Comments
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Literature

Lez Liberty Lit: Drown Me In Best-of Lists

One last wave of all the “Best of 2020” lists you can handle! Plus, Roxane Gay is starting a book club, Carmen Maria Machado’s cheese ball recipe, how to be a girl detective, learning to be OK with being bored, and more.

Ryan Yates December 31, 2020 3 Comments
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Book Lists

69 Queer and Feminist Books Coming Your Way in Winter 2020 and 2021

I believe we are in living in a truly incredible time for queer and feminist books. For proof, I offer you this majestic — if I do say so myself — list of queer and feminist books hitting shelves this winter.

Casey December 30, 2020 18 Comments
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Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: Javicia Leslie’s Mom Knew She Was Bisexual Before Javicia Did

How Wonder Woman failed Cheetah, ranking Peppa Pig’s biggest beefs, Tracker McDyke, same-gender dæmons in His Dark Materials, and more!

Heather Hogan December 30, 2020 1 Comment
TV Lists

The Best 2020 TV Shows With LGBTQ Women and Non-Binary Characters

Autostraddle’s TV Team shares our picks for the best TV shows of 2020 featuring girls, gays and theys.

Riese December 30, 2020 7 Comments
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Webcomics

Foolish Child #87: Dildosaurus Rex

“Actually, I know all 100 species of dinosaur and that is not one of them.”

Dickens December 30, 2020 6 Comments
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