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Unsafe Words: Queering Consent in the #MeToo Era
LGBT Book Reviews

In Challenging, Complex Essays, “Unsafe Words” Queers the #MeToo Movement

Multiple of these essays ask how we can make queer spaces safer, especially for our most vulnerable community members, while also not becoming our own police.

Nico February 21, 2023 1 Comment
two Black queer people flirting with each other outside; one faces away from us and all we can see if her high ponytail and her neon yellow manicure touching the other person's chest; they have cornrows, a black shirt, a brown blazer, a silver chain, and a huge smile on their face
Dating

You Need Help: How Do I Flirt When I’m Worried About Coming On Too Strong

I’m black and masculine so I’m worried that if I tried to make a move it would come off too strong, which I know I really shouldn’t but we live in a world.

Em Win and A. Tony Jerome
February 21, 2023 5 Comments
A blank, unlined journal is open on a black sheet. A red flogger is on the left of the journal and a red ball gag is on the right of the journal.
Lesbian Sex

She/Her/Sir: Finding My Home in Kink as a Black, Queer, Masc of Center Dom

Kink can be a profound space of healing, which is something that Black people — and especially Black women — deeply deserve.

Black Queer Dom February 21, 2023 5 Comments
Big Swiss by Jen Beagin features a woman howling and laying on the floor with a white milkmaid dress on
LGBT Book Reviews

“Big Swiss” Review: On the Queer Age Gap Novel Set in a House Full of Bees

Big Swiss veers from horny to humorous to macabre in zigs and zags.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 21, 2023 17 Comments
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Puzzles

Guessing Game: No Dyke Is an Island

Ah, but two of them…

Darcy and Sally
February 21, 2023 18 Comments
The flag of Trinidad and Tobago waving in the wind.
Culture

My Queer Return to Trinbagonian Carnival

Queerness exists in a paradoxical space in Carnival culture — ever-present but still hidden.

Amy Li Baksh February 20, 2023 11 Comments
Screenshot from The Last of Us: Ellie sits on a window seat and reads a teen girl's diary
TV Show Recaps

“The Last of Us” Episode 106 Recap: Never Let Me Down Again

Ellie and Joel continue their journey west to find Uncle Tommy, and find a lot more than they bargained for.

Nic and Valerie Anne
February 20, 2023 7 Comments
Salma Hayek and Channing Tatum dance in Magic Mike's Last Dance
Movie Reviews

Two Dykes Discuss “Magic Mike’s Last Dance”

This reminds me of the gorgeous difference in our Letterboxd reviews for this film. Mine was like “romance novels for boys are good” and yours was like “the struggling economic realities of being an artist are impossible to navigate.” And look, I think we’re both right!

Drew Burnett Gregory and Christina Tucker
February 20, 2023 8 Comments
Cate Blanchett as Carol Aird in a red coat and sunglasses.
Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: Suffering Sappho, Cate Blanchett Is Baffled by Lesbian Labels

Brittney Griner and Diana Taurasi are both coming back to the Mercury, a new poster for The Marvels, Poker Face has been renewed, and more!

Heather Hogan February 20, 2023 16 Comments
Rebel Wilson Engaged? Yes, indeed, she proposed to her girlfriend Ramona Agruma at Disneyland this weekend. In this photo, they're smiling in a bed of rose petals while wearing matching pink sweaters.
Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

Rebel Wilson Is Engaged to Her Queer Disney Princess

The couple wore matching pink striped sweaters that said LOVE on them, and knelt in a pile of about ten thousand rose petals.

Heather Hogan February 20, 2023 5 Comments
a black and white photo of Malcolm Reid, a smiling Black gay man and elder, is the center focal point of this collage. Beautiful collaged items including newsprint, colors, squiggles, and lines surround Malcolm.
Community

“I Needed To Create Something To Save Myself… That’s What I’ve Done”

“Ain’t nobody trying to slow down! Life is fun. Keep doing it.”

shea wesley martin February 20, 2023 25 Comments
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Puzzles

Mini Crossword Is Going to Vegas

What’s the most popular fish in the ocean?

Rachel February 20, 2023 4 Comments
The games Ooblets, Little With in the Woods, Littlewood, and My Time at Sandrock.
Quizzes

Quiz: What Should You Play After Stardew Valley?

I’ve played through Stardew nearly as many times as I’ve Googled “when is the Haunted Chocolatier coming out?”

Darcy February 19, 2023 37 Comments
on a desk sits a beaded jewelry box, a black clutch purse, a gray ring tray with assorted rings on it, a polaroid of Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Kristen Arnett on new year's 2023, and a very cool rock, bisected in the middle and sparkly on the inside
First Person Lesbian Weddings

I’m a Cool Rock Lesbian

By which I mean I am a lesbian who likes to look at and hold cool rocks — not that I am a lesbian into cool rock ‘n roll, but I’m sure those lesbians are great.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 19, 2023 26 Comments
cards from the muse tarot and the spacious tarot expansion pack, laid out on a table
Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Queer Tarotscopes for Pisces Season 2023: How Are You Evolving?

In this season of Pisces, make space for your own mysteries, and give yourself opportunities to dream without expectation or limits.

meg February 18, 2023 2 Comments
Drag Race 1508 recap: Jax stands on stage in a red and yellow top with blue suspenders and an orange wig.
TV Show Recaps

“RuPaul’s Drag Race” Episode 1508: Participation Trophies

Should there be a queen this far into the season that requires a participation trophy?

Drew Burnett Gregory February 18, 2023 10 Comments
In a two panel comic in colors of dusty purple, a person slowly learns how to socialize again post-pandemic. First, they go to a work party. Then they meet another gay person.
Webcomics

Reine #44: People Again

You WILL remember how to be around people. You WILL re-establish a community. You WILL!

Ren Strapp February 18, 2023 10 Comments
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AF+ Puzzles

A+ Crossword Is a Varsity Player

I saw a microbiologist yesterday.

Rachel February 18, 2023 12 Comments
Ellen from HIMYF leaves the subway and puts sunglasses on, text that says Rich City Bitch ELLEN appears in front of them.
TV Show Recaps

Boobs on Your Tube: How I Met Your Father Introduces “Rich City B*tch” Ellen, We Are Grateful

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Natalie and Valerie Anne
February 17, 2023 2 Comments
Wanting: Women Writing About Desire, edited by Margot Kahn and Kelly McMasters, including essays by Kristen Arnett, Aracelis Girmay, Sonora Jha, Torrey Peters, Larissa Pham, and Lisa Taddeo
LGBT Book Reviews

The Essays in “Wanting” Show the Power of Vulnerability

Although I have many of them at any given time, I don’t usually speak my desires out loud.

Stef Rubino February 17, 2023 2 Comments
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