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Gender Health Issues

It’s Not Okay: Intimate Partner Violence in Radical Queer Spaces

“She acts like she’s such a victim when obviously there was abuse on both sides.” Awkwardly, I shrug my shoulders and look around the room. My partner doesn’t notice how uncomfortable she’s making me because she’s caught up in her own conjectures: “It’s like how we are sometimes.”

Emma May 8, 2013 24 Comments
School

Lillian’s College Lesbianage: Discontent and Determination

Over the last few weeks, there have been two incidents of vandalism found scrawled on the walls of one of the safest spaces on the Vassar campus”

Lillian May 8, 2013 1 Comment
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Queer Leadership Lives On and Other Stories We Missed This Week

Queer leadership, Mother’s day, marriage, Brittney Griner, and dumb homophobes.

Carmen May 8, 2013 6 Comments
LGBT Book Reviews

Mariel Cove: A Masturbation Month One-Handed-Read Review and Interview

Mariel Cove is a sexy new erotica serial by and for queer women, which means I had to have it immediately.

A.E. Osworth May 8, 2013 17 Comments
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Almost Famous: She King

Shawnee She King is a pop powerhouse from Toronto who recently hit #1 on Canada’s National Aboriginal Countdown chart.

Crystal May 8, 2013 6 Comments
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Delaware Legalizes Gay Marriage, We Won A Thing!

Delaware became the 11th state to legalize same-sex marriage today!

Riese May 7, 2013 23 Comments
Travel

Girl-On-World: Traveling While Gay in Georgia

“I loved living in Georgia, but the people I met, particularly in my village, seemed so old-fashioned I was always too scared to come out and lose the love and affection I’d gained. “

jess May 7, 2013 24 Comments
Movie Reviews

Stream It Now: ‘Mosquita y Mari’ Will Make You Re-Live All Your Gay Teen Feelings

You can watch Wolfe Video’s Mosquita y Mari right here right now! Oh the feelings.

Araguaney R. Da Silva May 7, 2013 9 Comments
Crafts & DIY Projects

Make A Thing: 15 Gifts To Make For Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is the perfect day to glue something together sketchily and hand it to your mom with pride. She HAS to like it.

Hansen May 7, 2013 12 Comments
Music

This Letter Crystal Sent Me About Meeting Tegan and Sara

“All I really wanted to do was shake the Tegan and Sara’s hands. That’d be enough. Unfortunately, it’d also only take 10 seconds. I’d have at least 80 seconds left to fill.”

Crystal May 7, 2013 41 Comments
LGBT History

Idol Worship: Zelda Fitzgerald, The First American Flapper

On flappers, Zelda Fitzgerald, and sleeping around.

Carmen May 7, 2013 13 Comments
School

Sunny’s College Lesbianage: Admiration and Appreciation

There was no need to feel insecure about what I wore simply because it was a festivity of expression and you were the odd one out if you weren’t loosening up.

Sunny May 6, 2013 5 Comments
Health

Fat Queer Tells All: On Fatness and Gender Flatness

“The truth is if I do find someone while I am out tonight, I want them to know that I am not good at being a girl, that there are other things about me beyond my precarious femininity that I value more, and that if things work out, I will expect them to value.”

Allie Shyer May 6, 2013 63 Comments
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Sex Toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Sqweel 2

The Sqweel 2 is the world’s best-selling oral sex toy, and if you’re in a rut with your vibrator, it’s definitely worth a try.

Guest May 6, 2013 14 Comments
Recipes

Ode to My Pantry: French Toast

TIme to turn your refrigerator stragglers into brunch! Because every day is a good day for French toast.

Kristen May 6, 2013 8 Comments
Community

Straddler On The Street: Chloe

Say hello to Chloe, our very first New Zealand Straddler, on this cheery Monday morning – though for her, it may already be tomorrow!

Vanessa May 6, 2013 48 Comments
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New Autostraddle Merch Item: Metal “You Do You” Pins

You guys are going to love these!

Alex May 5, 2013 32 Comments
TV Show Recaps

Glee Episode 421 Recap: Wonder-less

This week on Glee, everybody came back to Ohio for brunch at The Cracker Barrel and sang Stevie Wonder songs.

Riese May 5, 2013 29 Comments
NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Self-Serving If You Know What I Mean

This week on NSFW Sunday: There is a Parcs and Rec porn parody. Also: gloves in queer porn, things future you wants to tell current you about sex and more.

Ryan Yates May 5, 2013 20 Comments
Society + Culture

Sunday Funday Will Make Her Two Moms Proud at Smith College

But first: pass your Art History final with help from Beyonce.

Carmen May 5, 2013 30 Comments
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