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It’s the 6th Anniversary of our A+ Membership Program! Thanks to You, We’ve Come So Far

Happy anniversary, babes; we wouldn’t want to do this with anyone else.

By Rachel| July 11, 2020 | 5 Comments
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Politics + Activism

Ferguson and Community Trauma: Defining Peace For Ourselves

We see violence not only in the crimson of blood spilled far too many times but also in the varying shades of brown on the skins of people of color. To be a person of color in the United States, and in the global narrative, is to be the shadow of violence.

By Helen| June 24, 2020 | 6 Comments
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Society + Culture

How to Take Care of Each Other: Community Care In Times Of Crisis

“When we’ve all broken past the fear of being burdens on others, when we as communities learn how to ask for and give help and support, we’ll be able to take care of each other.”

By Abeni Jones| June 8, 2020 | 17 Comments
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Autostraddle Is Hosting Our Second Virtual Community Care Week On Instagram & You’re Invited!

Shelter In Our Place 2 launches on Monday and we can’t wait to see you there.

By Vanessa| May 22, 2020 | 12 Comments
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Welcome Our New Trans Subject Editor, Xoai Pham!

Xin chào! My name is Xoai Pham. I’m the new Trans Subject Editor at Autostraddle.

By xoai pham| April 29, 2020 | 39 Comments
Straddleverse

Shelter In Our Place: Autostraddle’s Virtual Community Care Week

We made you a week-long virtual hangout space on Instagram because times are very tough. If you’re feeling alone right now, please come Shelter In Our Place for a little while.

By Vanessa| March 23, 2020 | 6 Comments
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We Have To Take Care of Each Other: Mutual Aid for COVID-19 and Beyond

We don’t know the answers to most of our questions about COVID-19 and this specific moment in history. But we do know this: together, we can take care of each other. We have no other choice.

By Vanessa| March 17, 2020 | 35 Comments
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We’re Celebrating our 180 New A+ Members With a Merch Giveaway – Today Only!

To honor and to uplift everyone who contributes so that Autostraddle can still be here, we are hosting a merch giveaway today, March 16th!

By The Editors| March 16, 2020 | 5 Comments
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Wow Happy Birthday to Us: Here’s How Our A+ Birthday Membership Drive Went!

Yesterday’s Advice-a-Thon was beautiful!!! A+ Members got advice on friendship, family, dating, peoples’ jobs and work, gay weddings, just navigating queer life — we are receiving word from our correspondents that one reader even told her girlfriend she loved her after getting advice about it!

By Rachel| March 10, 2020 | 2 Comments
Society + Culture

How to Host a Do A Thing Brunch and Get Your Things Done with Community

Hosting a Do a Thing Brunch can help foster queer community and help you finish up that project you’ve been putting off!

By Siobhan| August 13, 2019 | 2 Comments
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8 Books to Read if You Loved the Queer Community of “Stray City”

Have you read Stray City by Chelsey Johnson? It’s got great authentic representation of supportive queer community. Here are eight more books featuring queers who show up for each other!

By Casey| February 27, 2019 | 13 Comments
Books

Stray City Is a Love Story about Friendship, Portland, and Chelsey Johnson’s Queer Community

If I could have willed a book into existence, that book would be Stray City — so I talked to Chelsey Johnson about her debut novel and what it’s like to render queer community so intimately for the public.

By Vanessa| February 12, 2019 | 8 Comments
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Send Autostraddle a Birthday Card, Because We’re Turning 10!

In honor of our 10th birthday, our Birthday Issue, and your senior editors’ intrepid love for all things DIY and tangible in a world determined to go all digital, we invite you to send Autostraddle a physical birthday card to celebrate our big day.

By Vanessa| January 31, 2019 | 15 Comments
Straddleverse

How We Survive This Together

Let’s make radically caring space for each other, OK? Here are some tips and tricks for grounding ourselves and taking care of our communities in times of collective trauma like RIGHT DAMN NOW.

By KaeLyn| September 28, 2018 | 42 Comments
Advice

You Are Not the Only Queer Christian, I Swear to God

That’s what friendships with queer and trans Christians have taught me: it is blessed indeed to want more, more of everything, more love and more gender and more faith and more life.

By Adrian| September 26, 2018 | 26 Comments
Books Society + Culture

Where Are the Welcome Signs? Finding Lesbian, Bisexual and Queer Community in Unexpected Places

Why is it sometimes hardest to find other queer individuals in places where they seem to be everywhere? The new book, “How Places Make Us,” takes us into the lives of lesbian, bisexual and queer residents in four small cities and reveals how and why LBQ individuals forge especially strong ties in unlikely places.

By Japonica Brown-Saracino| August 20, 2018 | 8 Comments
Society + Culture

Meet Me at Cuties: The Queer-Owned LA Coffee Bar that Puts Community First

I sat down with Cuties founders Iris and Virginia to talk about finding community, running a commercial space, and how to hold community members accountable.

By Molly| May 25, 2018 | 19 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: A Queer Dentist Made Me Cry This Morning and Other Stories for Your Week

Cat convention, Lizzie McGuire, trans visibility makes a difference, Courtney Barnett, a queer dentist helps out, Coeur De Pirate, hiking ’cause you love it, QPOC and paid leave, The Handmaid’s Tale, and so much more!

By Laneia| May 7, 2018 | 12 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Making Queer Friends as an Adult and Other Stories from Your Week

Snails, guns, Gilda Radner, babies inside the senate, Chavela Vargas, white women fucking shit up in a bad way, gay bars, Big Freedia, Janelle Monáe, clear backpacks and tampons, and so much more!

By Laneia| April 19, 2018 | 8 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Dispatches from March for Our Lives and Other Stories

Bankrupt guns, the physical toll of leading a movement, documentaries for you, Trump’s latest trans military ban, Cameron Post gets a distributor, a queer podcast from the south, straight people are wrong, and so much more!

By Laneia| March 26, 2018 | 10 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Cryptocurrency But It’s Gay and Other Stories for Your Week

Afrofuturism, consent, black teens and gun reform, Emily González in her own words, drag kings, Monica Lewinsky, cryptocurrency but gay, Arabelle Sicardi, Georgia just being the worst, and so much more!

By Laneia| February 26, 2018 | 7 Comments
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