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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya at age 13 wears a green bejeweled dress for her 8th grade dance. A piece of notebook paper reads: Will you go to the dance with me? Yes, no, maybe.
Playlists

Playlist: Let’s Have a Middle School Dance Party

I asked queer adults to choose songs with the most middle school dance vibes, and the results smell like Axe bodyspray and taste like gum. Plus, read the real, true story of me kind of rudely rejecting a boy before my own 8th grade dance!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 10, 2022 11 Comments
Anne Lister and Ann Walker kiss in season 2 of Gentleman Jack
TV News & Trailers

The “Gentleman Jack” Season 2 Trailer Is Lesbian Fire

The Yorkshire lady of renown is back, now with her WIFE.

Heather Hogan March 10, 2022 11 Comments
A tween is curled up in a blanket reading a book
Literature

Rainbow Reading: I’ve Been Thinking About What I Was Reading When I Was 13

Plus, a new podcast exploring queer history through the lens of archive holdings at my favorite library.

Yashwina March 10, 2022 8 Comments
a collage with the words THE GAYEST THINGS WE DID AT 13: CALL FOR READER CONTRIBUTIONS at the center of nostalgic photos from high school
Community

Tell Us All About the Gayest Things You Did at 13!

We’re collecting reader stories about the gayest things you did at 13 for a fun list we’ll publish next week and we want to hear from you, yes, YOU!

Vanessa March 10, 2022 8 Comments
A white woman with brown hair pulled back into a bun sits on a bed with a white comforter. She is wearing a white T-shirt and plaid shorts. She is leaning forward and placing her hands over her groin.
Sex

How I Navigate Sex as a Bisexual Woman With Vaginismus

You don’t have to try to “fix” your vaginismus if you don’t want to. I’m not hyped about doing it, personally.

Ashley Broadwater March 10, 2022 19 Comments
In an illustration, Dickens si in a purple shirt that reads "Goin' into 2022 Like" while having dark bags under their eyes and a hand lazily waving to the reader. They have on white AirPods. Behind Dickens is a light blue background with words like "anxiety" and "sleep" floating around.
Webcomics

Foolish Child #115: Exhaustion

ZZZzzzzz….. 😴

Dickens March 10, 2022 1 Comment
Movie Reviews

“Fresh” Has Cannibals, a Bisexual Character, and Humor but Could Use a Little More Meat

Have stories that feature queers and also cannibals become my brand?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 9, 2022 2 Comments
A woman with blue hair and blue lipstick against a black backdrop
Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: CW’s New “Gotham Knights” Is Gifting Us a Blue-Haired Bisexual

Also! Euphoria makes Jodie Comer feel old too, Stef and Lena are back, Disney employees are pissed the Mouse won’t denounce Florida’s Don’t Say Gay bill, and a special message from Bette Porter.

Heather Hogan March 9, 2022 8 Comments
This is a photo of Kayla and Kristen. Kayla embraces Kristen and kisses them on the cheek while Kristen smiles. They both have long brown hair and wear glasses. They're also both wearing sweaters!
AF+

Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend of Three Years About Her Childhood and High School Years

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya asks Kristen Arnett juicy questions about queer desire, secret high school girlfriends, and more in this new A+ series in which we ask people we’re close with questions we genuinely don’t know how they’ll answer.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 9, 2022 9 Comments
Megan Fox has long green nails and long black hair and stares directly at the camera in a selfie repeated four times on a green background
Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

No Filter: Thank You Megan Fox for My New Motto

Sorry, my Leo rising is leaping out today!!!!

Christina Tucker March 9, 2022 8 Comments
A feature image showing a polaroid image frame with Kayla's photo in the center. Kayla is looking at the viewer from behind glasses, wearing a white button up shirt. She has long wavy brown hair and is south asian. The background of the image is a crumpled sheet of notebook paper covered in doodles like those that a 13 year old might do.
Straddleverse

I Lived Two Lives; One in the World, One in Computers

I “dated” two women I’d met online, and the relationships mostly unfolded on screens. In my other life, I dated men and tried to convince myself I liked it.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 9, 2022 8 Comments
In a 3-fold collage: Zoe Kravitz licks a mug of milk as Catwoman, Anne Hathaway's Catwoman looks directly into the camera, and finally Michelle Pfiffer's Catwoman smirks in a black mask.
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: How Does Zoe Kravitz’s Catwoman Rank, on a Scale of Anne Hathaway to Michelle Pfeiffer?

Plus, JoJo Siwa’s perfect response to being told NOT to say she’s gay and ESPN launching a WNBA fantasy league.

Carmen Phillips March 8, 2022 9 Comments
Kate McKinnon as Carole Baskin in a pink leopard print shirt, waving
Movie Reviews

Kate McKinnon Is Masterfully Bananapants in the Wild and Queer “Joe vs. Carole”

It’s a nesting doll of magnificent weirdness watching someone as over the top as Kate McKinnon try to add substance and subtlety to someone as over the top as Carole Baskin.

Heather Hogan March 8, 2022 4 Comments
Jill Gutowitz's book cover for her debut essay collection Girls Can Kiss Now is dark purple with pink font and many line drawing illustrations of cool lesbians in the background
LGBT Book Reviews

“Girls Can Kiss Now” and Other Realizations with Jill Gutowitz

We reviewed “Girls Can Kiss Now,” Jill Gutowitz’s debut essay collection about pop culture, the internet, growing up, and being very very gay. You’re gonna love it.

Vanessa March 8, 2022 3 Comments
The feature image for our Ask Us Anything Announcement Post! The whole thing has an early high school vibe. In script-like handwriting at the top it says "Ask Us Anything!" followed by "At our 13th birthday AMA. There are photos of each of our team members who are participating inside of polaroid-esque photo frames. These team members are, from left to right: Shelli Nicole, Meg, Casey, Heather, Kayla, Nicole, Carmen, Riese, Vanessa, Laneia, Dani, Em, and Drew. There are also doodles of a heart, an eye, and a ghost!
AF+

Our 13th Birthday A+ AMA is NOW!!! Ask Us Anything!

We’re experts in money stuff, sports, queer TV, dating, monogamy and marriage, mom stuff but like tired, and more! A+ members can ask us anything today!

the team March 8, 2022 440 Comments
Single woman in a swing on the beach at sunset reaches out to the empty swing beside her, seems sad
Dating

You Need Help: I Hate Not Having a Girlfriend

Why do you want a girlfriend? Why do you dislike being single? I’m serious! I want you to ask yourself these questions and come up with as many answers as possible.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 8, 2022 13 Comments
A feature displaying exciting handwritten looking text that reads "13th birthday Sale! A+ members can take 20% off the Autostraddle store" The feature is in our 13th birthday doodle and notebook paper style, with little abstract drawings and gem stone stickers in the background. Two images of perks are displayed in polaroid frames. On the left is our new Caligula Inn tee featuring an African Grey parrot with a blood red tale and then text that reads "The Caligula Inn Est. 1996" On the right are our fisting socks, with white outlines of various hand positions on a black sock.
AF+ LGBTQ+ Businesses

A+ Members Can Get 20% Off The Autostraddle Store

That means 20% off pre-orders of our new, buzz-worthy tee!

Nico March 8, 2022 8 Comments
A trail cuts through the Mojave Desert at sunrise. A Joshua Tree is visible on the left and desert shrubs are visible on either side.
First Person

Fault Lines

She was in the middle of a long divorce, and I had pulverized myself to fit into the life of a secret girlfriend.

Alayna Becker March 7, 2022 16 Comments
Natasha Lyonne in a black suit pointing, with a priest looking on in the background
Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: Russian Doll Is Back, Sweet Birthday Babies!

Also, Kristen Stewart wants you to clap, your But I’m a Cheerleader character based on your sign, Star Trek’s hottest lesbian couple, and more!

Heather Hogan March 7, 2022 8 Comments
Feature image for "On Our Chests A+ Roundtable" It has a background of a bunch of doodles that look straight out of a 13-year-old's notebook. There are 2 illustrations, one of a woman playing tennis whose skeleton is visible and one of a woman wearing a bra and smiling softly
AF+

A+ Roundtable: On Our Chests

The AS team gets our feelings about our chests…off our chests!

the team March 7, 2022 19 Comments
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