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Sex

Intimate Geographies: I Didn’t Think I Deserved To Be Topped, I Was Very Wrong

Over and over, the universe has instructed me: ask for what you want. Over and over, I’ve refused.

Abbie Jones May 24, 2022 17 Comments
A fat person with a short haircut stands proudly with one hand on their hip in front of three bright windows, wearing a white t-shirt, blue cardigan, a fancy necklace, and thick black framed glasses.
Identity

You Need Help: Will I Ever Feel Comfortable in My Own Skin?

Your story begins with letting go of the way your body looked before. Your body does not exist primarily to be seen. Here are some thoughts and some practical resources about how to move forward and learn to be comfortable in your own skin.

Darcy May 24, 2022 13 Comments
Solo Dance by Li Kotomi, translated by Arthur Reiji Morris
LGBT Book Reviews

Li Kotomi’s “Solo Dance” Is Haunted by Death and Literature

Solo Dance has no illusions that in the present day, the implicit and explicit violence of homophobia still leaves lasting scars on young queer people.

himani May 24, 2022 3 Comments
Kate McKinnon holds her hand over her heart in her final alien abduction sketch on SNL
Pop Culture Fix

Pop Culture Fix: Kate McKinnon Bids a Tearful, Hilarious Goodbye to SNL

How Ellen won and then lost, the WNBA doubles down on bringing Brittney Griner home, Netflix’s new gay vampire anime, and more!

Heather Hogan May 23, 2022 2 Comments
Love + Sex

Intimate Geographies: Two Femmes Kissing on a Futon

This was my first time with a girl and my first time with a fellow femme and it was hot and gentle and earnest and soft, soft, soft.

KaeLyn May 23, 2022 8 Comments
In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a blue background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of the Lovers Joy Stick Thruster, a purple thrusting vibrator with a bulbous insertable portion and a flat, vulva-shaped external portion.
Sex Toys

I Got Absolutely Jackhammered by the Lovers Joy Stick Thruster and It Was Fine, I Guess?

While the Lovers Joy Stick Thruster fulfilled its promise of reaching “sweet spots,” it was ultimately too intense.

Guest May 23, 2022
Photo 1: The book cover of Mary Anne and the Search for Tigger features a bunch of teens putting up a sign for a missing pet. The subtitle reads "Tigger, come home!" Photo 2: The book cover for Jessi Ramsey, Pet-Sitter features Jessi watching two blonde children, three dogs, and several cats. The subtitle reads "This was one sitting job Jessi couldn't resist!" Photo 3: The book cover of Kristy and the Walking Disaster features a youth softball team. The subtitle reads "Guess which one's the walking disaster!" Photo 4: The book cover for Mallory and the Trouble with Twins features Mallory standing between two twin girls wearing birthday hats blowing out candles on a cake. The subtitle reads "The Arnold twins aren't just bad — they're double trouble." Photo 5: The book cover of The Ghost at Dawn's House features Dawn with a small child on basement steps with a flashlight. The subtitle reads "Creaky stairs, spooky noises, secret passages — it must be a ghost!" Photo 6: The book cover of Claudia and the New Girl features Claudia sitting on a stoop with a young boy and a blonde girl trying to pull her away. The subtitle reads: "Claudia might give up the club — and it's all the new girl's fault." Photo 7: The book cover for The Truth About Stacey features a young girl at a candy counter with a teen girl. The subtitle says: Stacey's different...and it's harder on her than anyone knows. Photo 8: The book cover of Kristy's Great Idea features the members of the baby-sitters club sitting on a couch talking. The subtitle reads: "Four friends are babysitting together — what could be more fun?"
Quizzes

Quiz: Which Baby-Sitters Club Book Are You?

Travel back to 1994 with this extra summery pick-your-own-adventure style quiz.

Darcy May 22, 2022 18 Comments
Photo 1: Hayley Kiyoko wears a sparkly sequin neon orange mini dress with a plunge neckline and lime green heels. She is holding a metallic clutch and has a blonde long ponytail. Photo 2: Kayley Kiyoko has her hands in the air while standing at a mic onstage. She is wearing an oversized alien graphic tee and graphic printed retro pants and sneakers. Photo 3: Hayley Kiyoko is singing at a mic onstage and wearing a silver sparkly fringe cowboy jacket, a pink top, pink short shorts, and pink calf-high boots. Photo 4: Hayley Kiyoko is wearing a plaid oversized blazer over a plunge neckline bodysuit and matching plaid wide leg trousers. She is wearing pointy heels.
Queer Fashion

Style Thief: How To Rock the Queer Maximalism of Hayley Kiyoko

Lesbian Jesus is know for her bold color- and pattern-mixing, creating looks that are over-the-top and gay as hell. Add a little more maximalism to your life with this guide to dressing like Hayley Kiyoko.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya May 22, 2022 8 Comments
trio of pics of Hayley Kiyoko and her girlfriend Becca Tilley: outside in the snow, at an event, and cuddling in bed
Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

Come To Lesbian Jesus, Hayley Kiyoko and Becca Tilley Have Confirmed Their 4-Year Relationship!

After four years of taking romantic vacations in the same location at the same time, Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko have officially confirmed that they are girlfriends!!

Riese May 21, 2022 7 Comments
A piece of multigrain bread has spreadable white soft cheese on top of it. The image is repeated six times against a blue background.
Food Lists

It’s Time To Get Into Soft Cheeses (That Aren’t Brie)

So you want to spread some cheese on a cracker and want to get a little more flavorful than your standard brie. Here’s what to buy at the grocery store — including vegan/dairy-free options!

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya May 21, 2022 19 Comments
A cartoon drawing of Yao, who has red short hair in a pixie cut, a purple shirt and pointy purple hat, and cream scarf, laying on the grass with their cat. They are thinking in a thought bubble.
Webcomics

Baopu #99: It’s Never Over

Caught in an emotional limbo by the pandemic, acknowledging the present and moving on is never easy.

Yao Xiao May 21, 2022 9 Comments
Toni presides over the marriage ceremony for Hen and Karen.
TV Show Recaps

Boobs on Your Tube: Hen and Karen Get Gay Married (Again!) on 9-1-1

Whew get ready! It’s a full week! With updates on Grey’s Anatomy, Station 19, NCIS: Hawai’i, A Million Little Things, New Amsterdam, All American, Charmed, and The Young and the Restless.

Natalie and Valerie Anne
May 20, 2022 8 Comments
Rachel House's Gladys and her partner Ser Anzoategui's Wren stand in front of the magic school with magic plants
TV Show Recaps

“Pinecone & Pony” Gives Us the Animated Queer Nonbinary Couple We’ve Been Waiting For

Vida’s Ser Anzoategui plays Wren, a magic school horticulture teacher!

Heather Hogan May 20, 2022 2 Comments
The Staircase graphic
Society + Culture

Obsessed: “The Staircase” and The Shoddy Science Of Blood Pattern Analysis

HBO’s “The Staircase” revisits the very Documented Michael Peterson true crime story and it’s time for us all to get into some blood pattern analysis content !

Riese May 20, 2022 14 Comments
A small, brown and white dog peeking over their laptop screen, with a caption that says "Hey did you see that comment?!"
Straddleverse

The Comment Awards Are Dreaming of Espressos In Bed

“I had a one-time lover make me an espresso in the morning in 2018 and I have never stopped thinking about it.”

Darcy May 20, 2022 2 Comments
A collage of tarot cards on a grey wood table, the cards are in shades of Pink and spring warm hues. In the middle is a card that says Gemini in script font.
Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Queer Tarotscopes for Gemini Season 2022: What Are You Curious About?

Gemini season can bring mild whiplash even in the best of times.

meg May 20, 2022 1 Comment
two femmes, one who has lighter skin and one who has medium brown skin, both with long balck hair, are wearing comfortable but lacy lingerie and spooning in bed, smiling warmly and playfully.
AF+

Into the A+ Advice Box #60: SEX

A+ Member sex questions — from spanking to long-term relationship sex — answered!

the team May 20, 2022 14 Comments
Hayley Kiyoko is wearing sparkles and laying in a bed of roses, singing into the camera in the For The Girls music video
Music

Lesbian Jesus Is Back! Hayley Kiyoko Is the Gay Bachelor in New Music Video, Starring Becca Tilley

Hayley Kiyoko drops new single “For The Girls” and a video that more-or-less seems to acknowledge her relationship with former Bachelor contestant Becca Tilley.

Em Win May 20, 2022 4 Comments
Dove Cameron sings on stage at the GLAAD Awards in front of a blue background, she's in a sleeveless black dress with long opera gloves up to her elbow.
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Dove Cameron Opens Up About Dysphoria, Depression, in Honestly Striking Instagram Post

Sending so much love to Dove Cameron today. Also: The USWNT is finally getting equal pay for equal play, and Audre Lorde is getting her own street in New York.

Carmen Phillips May 19, 2022 23 Comments
Two fat femmes in All red dresses, surrounded by florals and deep pastels.
Style

Swimsuits, Lingerie & Jumpsuits – Fat Femmes Share Their Favorite Shops!

“All I’ve ever wanted in life is slutty thigh-high socks – and I’ve finally found them”

danijanae, Valerie Anne and Vanessa
May 19, 2022 11 Comments
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