I’m a tomboy femme who’s been stuck in boring clothes in the last several years looking to break out of the funk of wearing nothing but work polos and old Navy pixie pants every day. I need a work style that feels more professional and grown up, but still shows off a little flair and queerness.
Previously I’ve felt pretty comfortable presenting very femininely but recently started a new corporate job and I am SICK of having to wear the traditional slacks + top combo. That sparked the whole thought process behind reevaluating my wardrobe and since then, I’ve found that I really don’t feel like myself in very many of my clothes.
“I had a kid two years ago and have really struggled working out my gender after that. My body changed a lot in ways I did not like and I’ve been trying to come to terms with my identity as a person, rather than just my kid’s mum.”
“A lot of what I’m trying to evoke can be represented in the hosts of The Weakest Link around the world. Powerful take-no-shit femmes in suits, oh my.”
“I want to be SEEN by that hot dyke in the bus, ya know? And also to feel at home in this fat, queer body that I haven’t felt good about for too long and that I love now but don’t know how to show off?”
“I’m a psych major with a love for writing poetry and making traditionally masculine and also lesbian things — style or otherwise — edgy and feminine. One of my many mottos is “femme ain’t frail” and I would hope the way I present represents that.”
“I can’t stand wearing high heels, and I have no idea how to accessorize — but I want to get out of my comfort zone a bit.”
I’m a Taurus sun, Sagittarius moon non-binary person from France, who recently discovered that they feel much more at home in the men’s section of the stores.
“Until recently I’ve lived in boot-cut blue jeans and snarky t-shirts, and my usual fall/winter wardrobe is that plus a flannel and tennis shoes. I’d like to class it up a little bit without having to take ages to get dressed in the morning, but somehow long-sleeve button-fronts just seem so formal!”
“At the moment I wear jeans and a t-shirt with a pair of boots… but I have to meet big deal bosses/clients and I get the vibe I look too unprofessional.”
“I like to look like a “pretty boy,” wearing traditional masculine clothing with little hints of “masculine femininity” i.e. earrings, nice watches, some lace/floral patterns/soft pinks, rings. I pride myself in feeling a Peter Pan kind of boyish and youthful and fun, but still have a serious side and like to dress myself in nice business professional when the occasion calls for it.”
“When I walk into stores I really struggle to know whether I actually like clothes, or I want to like clothes because I’m ‘supposed’ to like clothes because it’s socially acceptable, so I’m only wearing about two pairs of pants over and over again and I hate looking at myself in the mirror half the time.”
“My gender, in a few words: femme boi, domestic witch, cry baby, plant mom.”
“As a 25 year old, 5’3″ AFAB genderqueer person, with a face that apparently screams ‘possibly a 14 year old unaccompanied minor in this airport??’, it’s important that I look professional enough (especially when I’m teaching) to convey some authority. Any advice you’ve got to help me achieve my goal of being the queer professor crush of everyone’s dreams?”
“The “dapper” butch looks I find when I try to google outfit inspiration don’t really fit my personality. I prefer an edgier, street style-esque sort of look, and I want to carry some of that style over into my workwear.”
This week we find fits for someone looking for a “style reset” that lets them embrace their punk and grunge roots while also not being mistaken for a teenage boy anymore!
“I’m a financial planner specifically serving queer, trans, and polyamorous individuals and families, so I need to dress business-y, but I also want to look queer. I spent the first 20-something years of my life just wearing band t-shirts and chucks, and I would really love to feel more put-together and intentional with my fashion than that.”
“I see clients every week where I have to dress business casual. It can be difficult as a butch woman to find something professional that doesn’t make me look like I’m about to officiate a wedding.”