“How much do I need to engage with my serious girlfriend’s racist immediate family members? She is close with them, and I’ve spent time with them in the past, but put simply I no longer have the energy or inclination to do so, even though I love my gf.”
Activist and survivor Ana Maria Archila, feminist bookstores, wine headaches, Wanda Sykes, Willie + Beto, the queer dollar, sleep deprivation, your city’s star sign, Julien Baker, the March for Black Women, and more!
As Venus is the planet of relationships, what’s getting exposed this month is what we need to reexamine, reconfigure, and reestablish in our relationships.
Plus: Adorable lions and cows and misandry! And: Good equality news from India and Romania!
How to be good at sex. Plus what it’s like wearing latex, what it’s like being a unicorn, cuffing season by astrological sign, the feminist history of nudes in nature and more.
Have you ever wanted a little chocolate cake? Like a literal mini cake that’s perfect for two and an easy dessert to whip up for dinner with a friend or cutie?
This week Kristin got in bed with Autostraddle senior editor Heather Hogan to talk about queer representation on teevee, spirituality vs. religion and, of course, cats. (And beer.)
Today we look at a panoply of questions, which, while the situations of their querents are specific and concrete, encompass three of the most common questions we hear in relation to bisexuality: Am I actually bisexual or not? Am I pansexual or something else within the bi+ spectrum? How the fuck do I let people know I’m not straight?
“Last week I found one of those butter-coloured strands on my dress, and wondered. Then I realised it was one of my own, greying hairs. Ten years have passed, and she’s straight now, living with the boyfriend I introduced her to nine and a half years ago.”
The data from our Lesbian Stereotypes Survey shows LGBTQ women and non-binary people have fled Christianity in droves — we actually have more Pagans than Catholics.
Queering gaming history, The Root 100, two women will call some NFL games, woman in Russia is done with manspreaders, Yale’s reckoning, a queer teen filmmaker, and more!
28 very gay sports in very gay order.
That’s what friendships with queer and trans Christians have taught me: it is blessed indeed to want more, more of everything, more love and more gender and more faith and more life.
I found a different self slowly, learned to exist as if with many different goggles on at once. Always speaking from my mother’s kitchen in the Silicon Valley and, at the same time, my grandmother’s crowded living room in Punjab. In these years, I would feel the sharpness of many kinds of difference, marginalization. But when I looked down at myself for signs of why I felt so other, all I would find was the color of my hands.
How do you know what to do at a play party if you aren’t sure of all the kink etiquette? What if you just want to watch? What do you wear?? Whether you’re a top or bottom, dominant or submissive, switch, voyeur or exhibitionist, here’s the basics of what you need to know to have a great time at your first play party.
I feel nothing and everything when I’m with her and I want that more than I want to protect myself. I know this will hurt me, but pain is part of my life, so I allow it in bursts I think I can control.
“Until recently I’ve lived in boot-cut blue jeans and snarky t-shirts, and my usual fall/winter wardrobe is that plus a flannel and tennis shoes. I’d like to class it up a little bit without having to take ages to get dressed in the morning, but somehow long-sleeve button-fronts just seem so formal!”
Today’s direct action in DC, Ontario students walking out over shitty sex-ed, reclaiming femme, mixed-race queer farmer!, we’re a nation of suburbs, we’re not the resistance, and so much more!
Mars helps us assert ourselves. It helps us go after what we want. Mars is our individuality. I want. I need. I desire.
“As a kid, a lack of role models made me believe people like me just didn’t grow up — or at the very least, didn’t grow up to be happy and open. But now I see that being bisexual actually allowed me to form my own version of what happiness and the future look like.”