Also.Also.Also: All O’Shae Sibley Wanted to Do Was Dance

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Rest in power O’Shae Sibley.

Queer as in F*ck You

O’Shae Sibley, a Beloved Dancer, Killed After Vogueing at Brooklyn Gas Station. O’Shae Sibley, a 28-year old gay Black dancer, was listening and vogueing to Beyoncé while pumping gas when a group of homophobic men approached and started using slurs and threatening O’Shae and his friend. One of the men stabbed O’Shae, murdering him for daring to live in all his queer Black joy and self-expression. Autostraddle Editor in Chief Carmen Phillips wrote a gutting reflection on O’Shae’s life and the fact that even in an era when vogueing has entered mainstream culture, it still isn’t safe for Black queer folks to be themselves and express joy. O’Shae deserved joy; O’Shae’s deserved to dance.

Black Trans Liberation has organized an emergency action this Friday in the form of a memorial ball at the Mobil gas station in Brooklyn. Details can be found on Instagram:

Beyoncé Honors O’Shae Sibley, Gay Man Killed Voguing to Her Song. Words from O’Shae’s aunt in this piece: “O’Shae has always been a peacemaker. All he wanted to do was dance.”

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The Ultimatum’s Mal Wright Can See Your Thirsty DMs. Everybody Calm Down. TBH one of my main takeaways from this profile of Mal Wright from The Ultimatum: Queer Love was: maybe don’t send thirsty DMs to a real person who you don’t actually know! I get thirsting over reality stars (and, I definitely understand the specific appeal of Mal!), but it’s one thing to fangay on the sidelines and another entirely to take it to the DMs. Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, I really do love hearing about Mal’s experiences in their own candid words.

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Reneé Rapp Is So Over It.

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Yesterday was James Baldwin’s birthday.

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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is the managing editor of Autostraddle and a lesbian writer of essays, short stories, and pop culture criticism living in Orlando. She is the assistant managing editor of TriQuarterly, and her short stories appear or are forthcoming in McSweeney's Quarterly Concern, Joyland, Catapult, The Offing, and more. Some of her pop culture writing can be found at The A.V. Club, Vulture, The Cut, and others. You can follow her on Twitter or Instagram and learn more about her work on her website.

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  1. This approach to covering O’Shae’s murder feels so disrespectful. A mention in a list that also includes an unrelated interview with Renee Rapp? That’s…so strange. And to wait this loss to mention it, only to initially misspell his name. I can’t help but feel this would be different if O’Shae wasn’t Black—a la Matthew Shepard. I don’t know, it’s just disappointing in a sea of disappointment at the queer community’s response toward this devastating tragedy.

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