Also.Also.Also: Lesbian Mom in Italy Who Will Be Removed from Her Child’s Birth Certificate “Cried for 10 Days”

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Sorry this is a bit of a downer today!!!!!! Go outside, eat a popsicle or another sweet treat, and do something nice for yourself today, that’s my Thursday advice for you!!!!

Queer as in F*ck You

Italy Begins Stripping Lesbian Mothers of Their Parental Rights. I hesitated to make this the lead story today, because every times I read about it or think about it, it fills me with overwhelming despair. I’ve been thinking a lot about lesbian motherhood, pregnancy, family, what my own future might hold, what my options might be. But if this news is stirring something in me, I should listen to it, not push it down, so I finally landed on leading AAA with it. Some context leading up to this moment: Back in March, Italy’s new right-wing leadership under prime minister Giorgia Meloni’s announced it would be stripping parental rights for same-sex couples. Access to starting a family for queer parents is already strictly limited in the country: Same-sex couples cannot adopt; surrogacy is illegal; IVF is only available to straight couples. Some LGBTQ+ couples travel out of country to seek fertility treatments. In this latest crackdown, queer parents who are not the biological parent of the child will be removed from their children’s birth certificates. It took me so long to just type out that sentence. Italian law officially does not recognize the possibility of a child having two mothers. In the city of Padua, 27 parents have been notified they would be erased from their children’s birth certifications, and other families in Milan, Florence, and Fiumicino have received similar letters, though the mayor of Padua is going against government orders and still issuing birth certificates to two-mom families. I’ll be clinging to any and all stories of resistance on this front.

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Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is the managing editor of Autostraddle and a lesbian writer of essays, short stories, and pop culture criticism living in Orlando. She is the assistant managing editor of TriQuarterly, and her short stories appear or are forthcoming in McSweeney's Quarterly Concern, Joyland, Catapult, The Offing, and more. Some of her pop culture writing can be found at The A.V. Club, Vulture, The Cut, and others. You can follow her on Twitter or Instagram and learn more about her work on her website.

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  1. What is happening in Italy is just the beginning of a new wave. FYI, in the USA, heterosexual couples who use donor sperm or eggs are both legally considered parents from birth and are both on the birth certificate. Gay/queer couples who use donor sperm or eggs have to legally adopt their child after they are born. This opens up an easy way for the same thing to happen in the USA as is happening in Italy down the line if it comes down to it. Equality of marriage ≠ equality of parenting rights in the USA.

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