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First Person

Being Lesbian While Black & How Five African Women Saved My Life

There’s just something about feeling inauthentic, impossible and insignificant that really makes life a burden, and that’s where I was for years. I was sick of living and wavered between a fear of and desire for death. I’m better these years; so far so good. I’m still here, I’m Rwandese, I’m queer and these are my mentors.

aimee josiane February 26, 2015 26 Comments
Straddleverse

Autostraddle Grown-Ups Mini-Survey: If You’re 29 Or Older, You’ve Gotta Take This Survey For Us

If you’re 29 or older and you’ve got 15 minutes then you’ve got time to get in here and take this survey!

Riese February 25, 2015 120 Comments
TV Show Recaps

The Fosters Episode 217 Recap: Hard Knock Life

Stef and Lena agree to let Callie go, and Rosie’s got a brand new house.

Heather Hogan February 25, 2015 18 Comments
Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Fool’s Journey: Tell Your Story with the Queer Tarot Project

We all have stories to tell. Stories about coming out. Stories about first loves. Stories about discrimination, liberation, escape, self-acceptance, pride, shame, faith, joy, regret, being lost, being found and so much more. The Queer Tarot Project is a place to share these stories through the medium of tarot.

Beth February 25, 2015 24 Comments
Dating

Where Oh Where Are the Single Black Lesbians?

Honestly, while I’m open to diversity in the women that I date, I have found that usually out of 50 quick matches on OKC I might get three black lesbians.

Carolyn Wysinger February 25, 2015 94 Comments
Politics + Activism

Cote v. Walmart: First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes Workplace Discrimination

After racking up hundreds of thousands in debt, three rounds of hospitalization, countless chemo sessions, and many nights’ lost sleep, Jackie and Dee are fighting for their rights (and yours).

KaeLyn February 25, 2015 6 Comments
Queer Pregnancy

Here’s What You Need to Know Before DIY Insemination

Did you guys know that in many states, if a physician doesn’t conduct the insemination, then the parental rights of the sperm donor might not be terminated?

V February 24, 2015 58 Comments
Politics + Activism

Another Heartbreak: Somali-Canadian Trans Woman Sumaya Dalmar Found Dead in Toronto This Weekend

In what has already been a year of horrifying violence and tragedy for trans women of color, a young Somali-Canadian trans woman was lost this weekend in Toronto. Sumaya Dalmar, known also as Sumaya Ysl, was found dead on Sunday morning at the age of 26.

Mari Brighe February 24, 2015 26 Comments
TV Show Recaps

Glee Episode 608 Recap: Here Come The Brides

Brittany and Santana say “I do.” (And Kurt and Blaine do too.)

Heather Hogan February 24, 2015 49 Comments
Sex

26 Bits Of Solid Sex Advice You Gave Us On Autostraddle’s Lesbosexy Sex Survey

20. WASH YOUR HANDS IF YOU ATE BUFFALO WINGS BEFORE GETTING LAID, OMG.

Ryan Yates February 24, 2015 55 Comments
Geekery

Drawn to Comics: Lumberjanes Keeps Getting Cuter and Dang Cuter

“Okay, first things first, this is the most freaking adorable cover to a comic book I have ever seen in my life. And the inside of the comic is just as cute!”

Mey February 24, 2015 13 Comments
Lesbian Weddings

Wedding Feelings I’m Powering Through: 40 Day Countdown

I’m getting married in 40 days! Here are some unfiltered feelings and things about that, because what else was I supposed to do?

Laneia February 23, 2015 105 Comments
Relationships

You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Wants to Date Other People and It’s Breaking Your Heart

Your girlfriend wants an open relationship and you agreed to it, but now you feel terrible all the time. What to do?

Rachel February 23, 2015 73 Comments
Camp

A-Camp Spring 2015: We’ve Got A Campership WITH TRAVEL For You!

An amazing anonymous donor is giving away a campership WITH TRAVEL to a camper in need, including overseas campers! Get in here and make your dream come true!

Riese February 23, 2015 18 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: Do You Want Your Kid to Be Gay, Too? And Other Stories We Missed

Doulas aren’t just for rich white folks, Ruth Bader Ginsburg isn’t going anywhere, where are all the women hermits, even more on the Google View-Master because I’m obsessed, plus other cool neat rad stories you’ll appreciate on some level!

Laneia February 23, 2015 32 Comments
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The Autostraddle Insider: Issue Eight, February 2015

“I’m just imagining Alex on a rock wall and Rachel snuggling a cat or something.”

the team February 23, 2015 76 Comments
Food Lists

35 Recipes to Help You Get Lucky at the Potluck

Make your next potluck contribution the belle (bowl?) of the ball.

the team February 23, 2015 10 Comments
Movie Features

2015 Oscars Liveblog and Open Thread

Pull up a chair, pour yourself a whiskey, and let’s talk about the whitest Oscars in decades.

Heather Hogan February 22, 2015 106 Comments
TV Show Recaps

Pretty Little Liars Episode 520 Recap: Nobody Puts Hanna In The Corner

Emily meets her girlfriend’s husband, and Hanna dances like she’s possessed by the Holy Ghost.

Heather Hogan February 22, 2015 68 Comments
Food and Drink

Sunday Top Ten: Heartwarming Midwestern and Southern Restaurant Chains I Miss

Nobody does breakfast like Bob Evans.

Riese February 22, 2015 104 Comments
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