• About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Jobs
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
    • Comment Policy
  • Shop
  • Sign In
  • Support Us
    • Give to Autostraddle
    • Become an AF+ Member
    • AF+ Gift Membership
    • Buy Our Merch
  • Home
  • AF+
    • All AF+ Posts
    • Into the AF+ Advice Box
    • AF+ Discount Marketplace
    • Baby Steps
    • Our Sex/Life
    • The Parlour
    • Go Long
    • AF+ Roundtables
    • Personal Essays
    • Interview With My Ex
    • Interview with My Significant Other
    • S L I C K Erotica
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • TV Show Recaps
    • TV Reviews
    • TV Lists
    • TV News & Trailers
    • TV Features
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • Autostraddle TV Awards
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Boobs On Your Tube
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 100 Best Lesbian Movies Of All Time
    • The Autostraddle Encyclopedia of Lesbian Cinema
    • Movie Lists
    • Movie Reviews
    • Movie Features
    • Movie News & Trailers
  • Entertainment
    • Literature
    • Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)
    • Style
    • Music
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
    • Comedy
    • Sports
  • Love + Sex
    • All Love + Sex Posts
    • Dating
    • Sex
    • Sex Toys
    • Lesbian Dating Apps
    • Friendship
    • Breakups
    • Relationships
    • Lesbian Weddings
    • Shibari 101
    • Tops & Bottoms
  • News
    • Politics + Activism
    • Society + Culture
    • Pop Culture Fix
  • Community
    • Culture
    • Straddleverse
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • LGBTQ+ Businesses
    • LGBT Pride
    • Autostraddle Reader Data
  • Identity
    • First Person
    • Coming Out
    • Gender
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Disability
    • Bisexuality
  • Home
    • Crafts & DIY Projects
    • Food and Drink
    • House & Garden
    • Pets & Animals
  • Games
    • Quizzes
    • Puzzles

Life

  • LGBT History
  • Health
  • Travel
  • Money + Work
  • Geekery
  • Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft
  • Holigays
  • Parenting & Family
  • Pregnancy

Etc.

  • Special Issues
  • Webcomics
  • Lists/Top Tens
  • Greatest Hits
  • Ranked by Lesbianism
  • Epic Lists
  • Shopping
  • Podcasts

  • Support Us
    • Give to Autostraddle
    • Become an AF+ Member
    • AF+ Gift Membership
    • Buy Our Merch
  • Sign In
  • Home
  • AF+
    • All AF+ Posts
    • Into the AF+ Advice Box
    • AF+ Discount Marketplace
    • Baby Steps
    • Our Sex/Life
    • The Parlour
    • Go Long
    • AF+ Roundtables
    • Personal Essays
    • Interview With My Ex
    • Interview with My Significant Other
    • S L I C K Erotica
  • Television
    • All Television Posts
    • LGBTQ Television Guide: What To Watch Now
    • TV Show Recaps
    • TV Reviews
    • TV Lists
    • TV News & Trailers
    • TV Features
    • The L Word: Generation Q
    • Autostraddle TV Awards
    • To L and Back Podcast
    • Boobs On Your Tube
  • Film
    • All Film Posts
    • The 100 Best Lesbian Movies Of All Time
    • The Autostraddle Encyclopedia of Lesbian Cinema
    • Movie Lists
    • Movie Reviews
    • Movie Features
    • Movie News & Trailers
  • Entertainment
    • Literature
    • Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)
    • Style
    • Music
    • Theater
    • Visual Art
    • Comedy
    • Sports
  • Love + Sex
    • All Love + Sex Posts
    • Dating
    • Sex
    • Sex Toys
    • Lesbian Dating Apps
    • Friendship
    • Breakups
    • Relationships
    • Lesbian Weddings
    • Shibari 101
    • Tops & Bottoms
  • News
    • Politics + Activism
    • Society + Culture
    • Pop Culture Fix
  • Community
    • Culture
    • Straddleverse
    • The Autostraddle Yearbook
    • LGBTQ+ Businesses
    • LGBT Pride
    • Autostraddle Reader Data
  • Identity
    • First Person
    • Coming Out
    • Gender
    • The QTPOC Speakeasy
    • Disability
    • Bisexuality
  • Home
    • Crafts & DIY Projects
    • Food and Drink
    • House & Garden
    • Pets & Animals
  • Games
    • Quizzes
    • Puzzles
  • Shop
  • About
    • About Autostraddle
    • Meet The Team
    • Jobs
    • Advertise
    • Press
    • Events
    • Contact
    • Comment Policy
Coming Out

Straight Allies: Every Little Bit Helps

Resources to help your friends help you.

Kristen October 15, 2012 9 Comments
Coming Out First Person

Coming Out As An Amorphous Weirdo

“It wasn’t until I kissed the second girl that even my therapist at the time laughed at me and told me maybe it was time to accept that my sexuality was not as cut-and-dry as I’d always imagined.”

Stef October 11, 2012 177 Comments
Coming Out

National Coming Out Day OPEN THREAD Wants To Hear Your Stories

The most important part about coming out is talking about it! Let’s all share our feelings in this open thread.

Hansen October 11, 2012 208 Comments
Coming Out First Person

Coming Out: Yet Another Roundtable

“Coming out never ends, and for some of you it hasn’t even begun.”

Carmen September 14, 2012 146 Comments
Coming Out First Person

Disowned: When Coming Out Doesn’t Go As Planned

“The truth is that it does bother me that my parents are pretending that I’m dead—probably more than I’ve been willing to admit.”

annika September 13, 2012 87 Comments
Coming Out Community

People in Glass Closets: Anderson Cooper and Straight Responses to Coming Out

When heterosexuals ask, “why does Anderson Cooper have to come out as gay,” I reply: “because you do not have to come out as heterosexual.”

tiger beatdown July 9, 2012 33 Comments
Coming Out First Person

Estranged: How I Fell In Love With A Girl And Lost My Family

“When they see you happy, they’ll accept it,” someone told me once. When there are tears about something unchangeable, people can only be optimistic. It’s the only thing that is left.

Whitney Pow July 3, 2012 126 Comments
Coming Out

This Short Series About Coming Out Is Adorable

Carolyn’s Team Pick: “I came out into a scene that really valourized masculinity and so I felt like in order to be recognized as a queer person I had to cut my hair short and dress in this particular way.”

Ryan Yates June 30, 2012 12 Comments
Coming Out Community

You Need to Help These Ten People Come Out

Girls are always asking me for advice on various coming out situations, and I don’t always know how to answer them. Perhaps you, dear reader, would like to take a swing at it?

Riese December 21, 2011 69 Comments
Coming Out

It’s National Coming Out Day and We’re Thinking of You

What does National Coming Out Day mean to you?

Rachel October 11, 2011 97 Comments
Coming Out

National Coming Out Day Listling Without Commentary: Selections From Your Coming Out Stories

“I’m gay, dipshit.”

Riese October 11, 2011 98 Comments
Coming Out Gender

When I Knew I Was a Boy

“Until I hit puberty, I basically looked like a boy 65% of the time and got kicks out of shocked looks in the girls’ bathroom.”

Sebastian March 8, 2011 60 Comments
Coming Out

How I Came Out to My Evangelical Christian Parents And You Can, Too

“Kirk Cameron does not star in this movie. No halo of God’s approval is going to appear behind your head when you tell your parents you’re gay. This is not Touched By An Angel.”

Jana January 18, 2011 113 Comments
Coming Out

So You Think Your Girlfriend Might be a Lesbian: Words for a Straight Guy

Are you a straight guy? Do you wonder if your girlfriend might be a lesbian? I have some things to say to you that may or may not help. Lots of over-sharing.

Laneia January 12, 2011 137 Comments
Coming Out

National Coming Out Day OPEN THREAD: The Good, The Funny, The Awkward

“And then, as though she was possessed suddenly by some sapphic demon whose realm was twentysomething nostalgia, my mom came pouring out with this entire sense-memory-ridden stream-of-consciousness tidal wave…”

the team October 11, 2010 201 Comments
Coming Out Money + Work

Coming Out at Work: What a Way To Make a Living

Thinking about coming out to your boss and co-workers? Here’s a little advice from someone who’s done it a few times.

Crystal September 28, 2010 91 Comments
Celebrities (Vapid Fluff) Coming Out

Cracking the Coming Out Code

Ricky Martin came out yesterday. Sean Hayes came out a few weeks ago. My Mom came out in 1995. Is it only a matter of time before everyone comes out? Riese investigates and Alex makes infographics and together we get to the bottom of this well of homosexiness.

Alex and Riese
March 31, 2010 81 Comments
Coming Out

Another Day, Another Lesbians Coming Out in Midlife Trend Piece

“Midlife lesbians” are apparently having a heyday — again! Queer activists are forcing Eminem to hate gay people a little less than he did before, Angelina kind of sort of maybe might have an open relationship, queer girls in sports lost a great advocate, and the state of religion in America. Also, pictures of Lady Gaga!

Rachel December 27, 2009 26 Comments
Coming Out

When You Knew You Were a Lesbian: Your True Stories & Tweets

Your real stories and tweets about when you knew you wanted to kiss other girls.

the team August 9, 2009 56 Comments
Coming Out

When Did You Know You Were a Gaymo? Sweet Stories of Lesbian Awakenings: Part 3

Our last installment of exciting and surprising stories of “When I Knew” – true lesbian awakenings … with an opportunity for you too to share your story!

Riese August 7, 2009 10 Comments
← Previous Page 1 2 3 4 5 6 Next Page →

From the Archives

  • Raising Baby T. Rex: You Can Always Have a Hug
  • AF+ Crossword Is Obviously a Villain
  • T-Shirt Stencils for T-Shirt Stenciling, Autostraddle Style

Latest Comments

  • Rony Am I Gay Quiz "Vásároljon regisztrált dokumentumokat online? https://getvaliddocuments.com/huSzeretne regisztrált dokumentumokat vásárolni online, megbízható forrásból? A GetValidDocuments.com oldalon legális, adatbázissal ellenőrzött dokumentumokat kínálunk, amelyek…"

  • uazairuswa We Loved boygenius Because of How They Loved Each Other "It is time to start the next exc https://crumblmenus.com/"

  • Rony Am I Gay Quiz "Buy if you are Looking to buy registered documents online from a trusted source https://getvaliddocuments.com At GetValidDocuments.com, we provide legal,…"

  • Clearing The 100 Best Lesbian Movies Of All Time "Complete agree on this one. On point"

Latest Posts

  • 48 Lesbian, Queer and Trans Celebrity Memoirs
  • Are Athletes Okay?
  • ‘My Long-Distance Bestie Is Hard To Talk to Because of His Chronic Illness’
  • Reneé Rapp Is Giving the Gays Everything They Want (Jennifer Beals)
  • Queer Dream Interpretation: Five Common Nightmare Images and What They Mean

Our Network

  • Store
  • For Them

About Us

  • What is AS?
  • Meet The Team
  • Press
  • Advertise
  • Contact Us
  • Write for Us
  • Cookie Policy
  • Privacy Policy

Follow Us

  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • Pinterest
  • Tumblr
  • Instagram
  • RSS

Copyright 2009 - 2025 The Excitant Group, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Comment Policy

Read ad-free: join AF MEDIA