It’s Our Birthday! Ask Us Anything At Our All-Day A+ Birthday Party!

Hello and welcome to our sixth birthday party! We are so pleased to be here with you!

Here's how it works:

Below we've listed today's question-answerers, in order of appearance. Rachel, Heather, Laneia and Riese will be around for most of the day, and everybody else is working in 2-3 hour chunks.
You can ask us anything — anything at all! The primary focus, we anticipate, will be advice questions. You can ask a specific person (by @-ing that person at the start of your question) or you can just ask something and see who we decide would be the best answer-er(s) of your question.
If you'd like to drop in a question for a specific person who won't be around 'til later in the day, you can do that, and they'll answer when they arrive.
We hope that you'll ask us as yourself (Activity Streams have been disabled and you can also go to edit profile > settings > privacy to turn off activity streams on your profile) but if you need to ask anonymously, you can send a private mes...

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